(Closed) FI asked for photos… Of you know…

posted 5 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: When should I give him the boudoir photos?
    The night before the wedding : (25 votes)
    37 %
    On valentines day : (22 votes)
    33 %
    When we become abstinant : (8 votes)
    12 %
    Other : (0 votes)
    I like polls : (4 votes)
    6 %
    I didn't read the post but the night before the wedding (it's ok if you didn't read) : (4 votes)
    6 %
    I didn't read the post but on v-day : (0 votes)
    I didn't read the post but when you become abstinant : (2 votes)
    3 %
    I didn't read the post and other : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

    If you are getting baptized mid-February, then Valentine’s Day is a perfect time to do it!

    Post # 4
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    59 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I think as a wedding present (night before or day of). If you are going to abstain for religous reasons I think you want to make that as “easy” on yourselves as possible. Him haveing naked pictures of you will just make it harder. 

    Post # 6
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    4333 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    If you’re trying to be abstinent, I would hold off on the pictures until the night before the wedding as before kind of contradicts the point. If he needs to handle things for some reason, his imagination/memories should suffice. It’s only a little over a month!

    ETA – I have no problem with pre-marital sex (I did it), but if you’re stopping for religious reasons, why put it off to February? Baptism makes your faith/religion official, but doesn’t actually change your beliefs, imo. (I’m not trying to criticize, just understand.)

    Post # 7
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @jaykayel:  +1

    Post # 9
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @pinkgreenandyellow:  I’d wait until right before the wedding night to give him the photos. It’ll just make it more difficult, especially since you already live together. Are you sure that being baptized will just erase all the “sins” (i.e. pre-martial sex you’ve had already)? I could be wrong but I guess I just don’t understand how that works…

    In any case, good for you for sticking to your new beliefs.. it must be hard!!

    Post # 10
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    1152 posts
    Bumble bee

    @LadyBear:  If you’re trying to be abstinent, I would hold off on the pictures until the night before the wedding as before kind of contradicts the point. If he needs to handle things for some reason, his imagination/memories should suffice. It’s only a little over a month!


    +1. It’s a month, you can do it! Giving him the pictures early I think would only make things harder for the both of you.

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    What an awesome Valentine’s gift!!  And that way you’d be all planned ahead…no rushing last minute to find a gift!  I vote for Valentine’s Day!

    Post # 12
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    3092 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’d add, if it’s not your pictures he’s looking at it will be some stranger on the internet.  The baptism and religious component is your business…having sexy pictures or w/e doesn’t negate your plan IMO.

    Post # 13
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    835 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I voted the night before the wedding. That’s a nice gift by the way!

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