Post # 1
FI’s aunts are planning to throw us a bridal shower next month. He has an amazing family but they are very stuck in their ways (as in they do the same thing for every single shower that they throw…. same location, same attendees (all girls), no games, just sit and open gifts). I’m wondering if it would be OK to suggest to an idea… I’d think it’d be fun to include Fiance in the shower and maybe have it be a “garage theme” where guests are encouraged to give gifts that would be kept in the garage (tools, lawn care, etc – all stuff that Fiance is really into). My thinking is that since it’s FI’s side of the family they might enjoy gifting items that he will use more so than household items would be utilized more by me. Of course, we’re excited about the shower regardless and don’t want to offend anyone.
I’m emailing the aunts back today to confirm the date and provide my BM’s addresses… let me know what you think. If you think it’d be OK to make this suggestion it’d be very helpful if you’d provide some wording. 🙂 THANKS BEES!
Post # 3
Hummmmm, while I don’t think it is a bad idea nor is it rude to make this suggestion, I think when it comes to parties that we are not hosting, we really should leave all the ideas up to the host. More then likely his aunts have already pictured what they want the shower to be like, an while your suggestion is innocent, it may be a little hurtful b/c they will feel they can’t plan the way they wanted to initally.
Post # 4
Would he be the only guy there?
Post # 5
@bells: Not sure if he’d be the only guy or not, that’d be up to them. =/
Post # 6
@AnnieAAA: I completely agree. I would leave the planning up to his aunts unless they ask for your opinion.
For both of my showers, Fiance came for the last hour or so to help open gifts and load them in the car. Maybe you could ask if something like that would be ok but to suggest the whole theme of the party would be overstepping your boundaries, in my opinion.
Post # 7
Thank you all for the quick advice! That is exactly what I was worried about – I’ll just sit back and enjoy whatever they plan. 🙂
Post # 8
I like the garage theme idea! Maybe your bridesmaids could throw a garage theme party as well and make it coed. The line is very fuzzy nowadays. For my sister all of her showers (baby, bridal) were coed. A garage theme would go over very well with the guys. 🙂