(Closed) FI attending shower?

posted 5 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

 The shower is going to be in my parents house and we live in their in-law apartment, so I’m sure he will make an appearance at some point. It’s going to be informal and everyone already knows him so I’m not worried about it either way. I think if there are ppl who don’t know your Fiance that you should have him come by at the end to meet everyone.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Every shower that I have been to has been a surprise, and the fiance always comes because he’s dropping her off and then returns towards to the end to load everything up and say Bye to everyone.

That said, my shower is a surprise so I’m sure FH will end up showing up for a little while.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’ve never been to a shower where the groom is there for the entire event.

And until recently, I’d never been to a shower where the groom shows up at all.

But at the last 3 or so showers I attended, the groom shows up towards the end and presents the bride with a bouqet of flowers and thanks everyone for their gifts and attendance and then helps carry all the gifts out. < this is kinda sweet, but unneccessary to me.

My fiance is really shy and hates crowds so I can’t see asking him to show up in front of all those women and do that. If he wants to, great, if not, no big deal.

So …. either way I think it’s fine.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

My shower will be at my mom’s and we stay with her when we’re in town, so I have politely asked Fiance to make some sort of appearance rather than hitting the coffee shop or hiding in the house the entire time, lol.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@jivet:  Nope. Just women only. He doesn’t really have an interest in attending. Besides, I am looking forward to spending time with all the ladies. He is not into wedding discussions, girlie things or the such.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@Stace126:  Aww that is cute!  (Fitting all the presents in my car was a biatch! DH’s help would have been appreciated)

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Yep, my husband was there, for the whole thing!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I went to a super awkward shower where the groom had to show up for a “surprise” at a certain hour. I won’t elaborate for fear of offending others and identifying myself. He positively squirmed with a room of about 50(!) women staring at him.

That said, I went to another that was a backyard barbeque and open to both genders. He was there the whole time (as was my boyfriend/now FI) and we had a blast. Everyone drank beer and played cornhole after gifts were opened.

I’m not sure if I’m even having a shower, but if I do it will be co-ed. I don’t percieve ladies-only showers as particularly fun in the first place.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

My Fiance sees a shower as very feminine so he definitely would never consider being there. I have never been at a shower where the guy was there either.

Post # 12
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Newbee

Well, Jack and Jill showers (showers for both the groom and bride) are getting more popular these days, and I don’t see why you can’t celebrate and shower both individuals with gifts! That being said, if your maids just organized a girls-only bridal shower, there’s still no reason why your Fiance shouldn’t be able to come. If he’s comfortable with it and your girls are comfortable with it, then go for it!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Most of the showers I’ve ever been to, I think my Fiance would be bored into a coma if he were forced to sit through one. They are so very, very… girly. But hey, sometimes it’s good to let them peek behind the curtain.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@geekspice:  Exactly. I actually just asked my Fiance when he got home if he was even interested in attending and he said he would rather watch the grass grow… 🙁

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

We won’t be in the same time zone… so no :oP

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