Post # 1

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Worker bee
quick question- my Fiance Bachelor party is in a few weeks and my dad is refusing to go because there may be stripers there and he feels uncomfortable with this..
part of me understands
but the other part is really sad for my Fiance because i know it is important for my dad to be there he has expressed this many times
Did your dads go to your Fiance bachelor party or not? is this common?
Post # 3

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Bumble Beekeeper
@veboone: My dad did not go (neither did his dad). I haven’t heard of dad’s going to bachelor parties. Usually it’s just for good friends/groomsmen/brothers.
Post # 4

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Buzzing bee
I’ve never heard of fathers attending a bachelor party before. It seems like it should be more of a celebration Fiance and his friends
Post # 5

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Busy bee
NO!! My husband went to a stip club for his bachlor party, and my dad was uncomfortable with it too, so it was just my husband and his guy friends. They ended up having two parties, the other was at a local brewery and my dad went to that.
Post # 6

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Bee Keeper
Def no dads at my DHs bachelor party. He has gone to other bachelor parties where the dad has attended but he always tells me how awkward it is.
Post # 7

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Buzzing bee
My dad will be there for part of it – it’s actually this weekend! In the afternoon they’re all going to get together to play golf….that’s the part my dad will be around for and is more of a fun thing to do together. Later that evening, Fiance and his friends are going out to dinner and then the strip club for the more party aspect of the day, which I definitely think would be SUPER AWKWARD for my father.
Post # 8

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Bumble bee
My Dad and DH’s dad attended the dinner portion of his bachelor party at a steakhouse. They left before the guys went to the strip club.
Post # 9

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Helper bee
Neither one of the dad’s attend for my husband’s party. It was never even considered an option since it was really designed to be about him and his buddies, all of whom are under 30. I think the Dad’s would have felt out of place.
What about having your dad go to the dinner with the guys before anything gets too crazy or maybe having your dad meet them for breakfast the next morning?
Post # 10

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Worker bee
Ya i can understand the awkward part of it i like the idea of having two-
maybe its a different circle Fiance says everyone he has been to both dads have been there.
I also like the idea of part of it but the best man has planned it out of town so it would be silly for my dad to drive there and back just for a few hours…
Thanks for all the advice!
Post # 11

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Bumble bee
My FI’s dad will most likely not be going. Out of the 7 bachelor parties Fiance has attended since we’ve been together, no one’s dad has gone. That being said, most mom’s have gone to the bachelorette parties that I’ve been to & I don’t believe that were any less tame because of it 😉
Post # 12

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Bee Keeper
Can they go out to dinner before they go to the strip club? DH’s dad went with the guys to dinner and when they went to go and drink they parted ways.
Post # 13

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Bumble bee
My dad was invited, but didn’t go. He didn’t think he could keep up with the youngens. As misspeanut’s dad is, nothing wrong if its a full day thing and he could be there for the afternoon fun. My dad might have gone if there was golfing in the afternoon with some beers! …bit cold this time of year, though.
Post # 14

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Sugar bee
no way in hell. bachelor parties are for debauchery and hedonism. my dad is very reserved.
oh– my mom tried to invite herself to my bachelorette party. I was like, um NO.
Post # 15

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Helper bee
I think it might be a nice idea to have your dad go to a dinner and then head home. Because like others have said, I’m not sure the bachelor party is really for dads. Either that, or have them plan a guys lunch or golf session or something…
Post # 16

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Worker bee
we are not going to invite the parents… in fact it is only going to be our bridal party….