(Closed) FI buying me a ring: honest opinions on it?

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 64
558 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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@MadsTheGallifreyan:  That’s a gorgeous early Victorian piece.  It will be delicate, but you seem to have that down.  Make sure you have stuff to care for the pearls, and rock it.  I love Victorian jewellery, I’m a fiend for mourning jewellery myself.  Go for it, it’s fantastic!

Post # 65
3219 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

will it need to be resized? Hard to tell from the photos, but it appears to have some patina associated with it. Do you have access to a jeweller trained/with experience resizing & repairing antiques?


I know you say you’re not likely to wear it other than for “better,”  but you also had mentioned wanting to wear it on a cord at other times. If you wear it next to your skin, the oils and sweat of your skin WILL affect the pearls. If you wear it above your clothing, you will probably still have a bit of sweat/oils touching it, plus you will then have it bouncing around/bumping into buttons, hitting the sides of cars when you go to get in or out, etc. I would worry that your cord will either become a tangled PITA if it’s grippy enough to stay put when you knot it, or slippery enough that the knot will come undone and you’ll lose your ring. Without more information than you’ll likely be able to have access to about the ring’s metallurgical composition, it would be difficult to say with any kind of certainty if you could risk having any sort of metal clasp of the sort of metal you would want to trust an engagement ring with.

As an amateur jewelry-maker and as a museum professional, I cannot honestly think of a way to keep that ring long-term safe and undamaged other than just limiting use (you will still have risk of damage) and at that point, if you have another ring you like already, given that you have mentioned it’s too expensive for you and your partner to see each other due to distance, why not save the $500 bucks for a ring you will barely wear and put it towards a trip for now? 

Post # 66
1119 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

The ring is lovely! It doesn’t sound like too much for an antique piece of jewelry so as long as your fiance can afford it I say go for it.


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