FI criticizing me

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 61
Member
1597 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

hssweetheart :  If my Fiance spoke to me that way he’d come home to find his shit on the lawn and his Playstation on fire. That is straight up rude and unnecessary. I hope he’s a gourmet chef, washes dishes like he has OCD, is a perfect lover and has immaculate feet otherwise who the hell is he to criticise you?

Put the brakes on the wedding plans, this is a major red flag.

Post # 62
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309 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: LA Athletic Club

I’m sorry Bee, but he is NOT wonderful by any means. I know you’ve been dating him since you were a kid, but people change and grow as they get older. I know you have a child with him and you are young parents, but that doesn’t mean you need to stay in this relationship. He seems immature and needs some growing up and a reality check. You and your child deserve better than that.

Post # 63
Member
1104 posts
Bumble bee

i actually read your post out loud to my dh and he interrupted me about halfway in with “what a dick” and then didn’t want to hear the rest because he said he couldn’t stand “asshole guys who treat women like crap”. we’ve been together 8 years. we’ve had lots of ups and downs and been through a lot together, this behavior is not regular longterm relationship stuff…it’s inexcusable. 

Post # 64
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294 posts
Helper bee

this broke my heart a little to read. 

I would feel absolutely worthless and completely give up and make him do some cleaning for a change. Every relationship is a two way street not a one way high way. 

Post # 65
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2934 posts
Sugar bee

I agree with the other bees.  These are horrible things to say and I fear that he was trying to find out just how horrible he could be and still get away with it. If this is the case you need to seriously think about whether you want to marry him.

Rather than pretend not to be upset you should get very upset indeed. Be angry too. Very angry.  

Can I ask why are you doing all the cooking and cleaning? That needs to stop right now.  

And are you doing all the wedding planning too?

Post # 66
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2934 posts
Sugar bee

ringobsessed5 :  Why only some cleaning?  He probably has eight years of cooking and cleaning to catch up on.  After his rude remarks I rather hope he has to do it all.

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