(Closed) FI didn’t formally propose, does anyone else have a similar story?

posted 7 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

We were very much the same way.  There was no official proposal, we just sat down, discussed it and decided to get married.  Then we went out and bought each other engagement rings.  🙂

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

Ummm I kinda had both.

Darling Husband initial told me I could start planning a wedding while just having a regular conversation. I was a bit surprised but he told me he loved me & my son and knew he wanted to….

Then when we got my ring a few months later he did get down on one knee for a “formal” proposal but we had already been engaged.

Nothing huge, planned, or a fancy surprise but totally us =)

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@mhackney21: We have exactly the same story and we wouldn’t have it any other way. It totally fit in with our characters Laughing

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I didn’t really have any “formal” proposal either. We had been talking about marriage for 6 months and then decided to go ring shopping one weekend. The next few weeks we went to a couple different stores and I finally decided on my ring, and we went to buy it. Ordered the stone online, and when it got there, I took the stone and ring to the jeweler (who was on my way to work and nowhere near where Fiance works, so it mades sense that I took it) to be set. I had them call me when it was ready and went to pick it up on my way home a couple days later.

I didn’t look at the finished ring in the store because I wanted some element of surprise. I texted Fiance when I got the call from the jewelers to let him know what was up, so we both knew we’d be officially engaged that day. When I got home from work I handed him the box, he took the ring out, we oohed and aahed over it together, and then I said he had to put it on my finger and say “Will you marry me?” to make it official haha. So he did. And then we were engaged.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

Fiance and I talked about everything for sure, and we even picked my ring out together! But we are traditional in a sense that he doesnt want to see m;y dress or know what it looks like until I walk down the aisle. He also did get on one knee. But we had a talk much like yours about our wedding and our plans before we got engaged. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

We came home one day and sat at the kitchen table for coffee like we frequently do. Then he proceeeded to talk about us uniting forces, combining assets yada, yada, yada.  It sounded like a business deal.  Half way through I realized this was his version of a proposal so I told him he needed to start all over again any maybe throw in a couple of “I love you’s” or something to soften it up and be romantic to some degree.  It didn’t bother me at all that no big event was planned and he had no ring. (We picked out a ring weeks later.)  I was a little disappointed that it wasn’t romantic at all but I think the fact that he made a move toward marriage is what matters.

We were only engaged 10 mos. when we did marry and had a very small wedding at home.  There wasn’t much planning involved, but about 6-7 mos. into the engagement he said that we should just “get this over with and go downtown”.  At that point, I was actually ready to do that but we figured his mom would have been heartbroken had he gone to the courthouse AGAIN! My parents wouldn’t have cared.  

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

My parents did not have a proposal.  My dad had just finished college and my mom was kind of tired of waiting and was like “are we gonna do something , or what?”  So they got married- 37 years ago.  And are totally happy.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

We had no “official” proposal, either.  I kept telling Fiance I wanted a ring and wanted to get married.  He got me the ring, but didn’t “propose” until two months later.  I’d been wearing the ring the whole time.  We chose one day to make it “official” on.  We got Chinese food and liquor on that particular day, lit some candles, and had a little date night.  Then, he took my ring off and said, “Will you?”  and that was that.  Very non-romantic and I really wish it would have been different but that is just how Fiance is.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Not me. Fiance just asked. And I said yes. The end? lol I didn’t even realize the story was such a big deal until after it happened and other people seemed dissapointed with it. I admit, I was down about it at first but it’s gotten better. We were just having a quiet morning in the park and he asked, something that’s low-key and quiet and totally us. 

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

My daddy never proposed to my mama. They did everything else the traditional way. They have been married for 29 years. 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I had been with my Fiance for 3.5 years and one night out of the blue he told me he loved me more than anything and would do anything for me. He told me he would give me whatever I wanted to just name it and it would be mine. I jokingly said well put a ring on my finger he told me he had a ring for a month now to come to his house right now. I showed up thinking he was playing and long and behold he put a ring on it…lol. It was a very small ring and he told me it was not what he would put on my finger to be my engagement ring. It ended up being a promise ring it wasn’t until 3 years later ( This past Valentines Day/Anniversary) when we did our e-pics that he officially proposed in the park we were getting married in w/ a ring that he deemed worthy. It was sweet and priceless. Well worth the wait : )

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper

I’ve been with my FH …forever… and we currently live together. Its kinda always been understood that marriage is goal. We’ve been planning this wedding, looked at venues and even gone window shopping rings. But no formal proposal has come, yet. I’ve told him that I defintely want him to. It doesn’t have to be some grandiose orchastrated mess, as long as its heartfelt and thoughtful. 

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