Post # 1
Fiance has been looking for his first job in his field since he graduated 8 months ago. On Monday he had an interview for a part time job and he was all but sure he had landed it. I was so excited for him, and at the prospect of being able to start saving money (finally!). Until he found out today that he didn’t get the job. I am so sad, I just feel like giving up hope. I know I have to be positive for him, but it’s just so disappointing. Thanks for listening.
Post # 3
What is his felid? There are a lot of Programs based on he feild that he might be able to get an internship which the could be a perm. Position.
There are also programs that help you learn how to conduct yourself in an interview, And to make your resume more awesome.
Just a thought.
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Post # 4
Don’t get discouraged! Does his college offer a carrear counselling service? I know many schools do and have their button on some opportunities!
Post # 5
Hang in there! The job market is tough but he will find something. My husband was laid off in October – He went on at least 11 interviews and sent out over 100 resumes before he finally landed a job. Thinking of you!
Post # 6
I am sorry. That has to be disappointing for you both. Sending lots of good luck your way!
Post # 7
Hang in there!! It took my Fiance about that long to find a full time job when he moved across the state to be closer to me. He has since found a wonderful job doing exactly what he loves! Don’t give up 🙂
Post # 8
Stay positive. He didn’t get that job because there is something out there better for him.
Post # 9
Hang in there! It took my Fiance about a year to get a job in his field after he got his BS, and that was with experience. It’s a tough market, but don’t give up hope!
Post # 10
@msgraphics: Thank you, I really needed to hear that.
Thanks to everyone who took a moment to comment. FI has a master’s in Library Science. He never did an internship, so now he’s volunteering at a library one day a week, but he can’t find any work in his field, even part time. He’s had 2 other interviews and he hasn’t been confident at all until this one.
The problem is, he’s not the type to just send out resumes and call people and apply for anything. He has anxiety issues that make it hard for him to even fill out an application. I want him to get a job in his field, but right now it’s putting too much of a financial strain on us to have him only working part time at his minimum wage job. He needs to make more money, but he lacks the confidence to go out and find something.
He works at a coffee shop part time, so I suggested that he find some local coffee shops to call and ask if they are hiring to pick up some extra shifts. He refuses to do so. I understand that he doesn’t like talking on the phone, but at some point you have to movtivate yourself to get past a fear like that. I just feel stuck in and endless cycle.
Post # 11
@Macintosh: I understand what you mean. When my Fiance was out of work, after about four months of unemployment I was like, “Maybe you should apply for part time work in the meantime?” he was adamantly against it, and it was his life, but it frustrated me. I thought it was ridiculous that he refused to look outside of his field even for part-time work, but now I understand why after working full time while taking on 20 credits a semester, he wouldn’t want to then settle for a job outside of his field. I’m very “You gotta do what you gotta do” about pretty much everything and it took us awhile to work out our differences in that department.
He did promise that if he hit seven months of job searching, he would take a part time job, but told me I had to give him a chance. Fortunately it paid off for him, but if it hadn’t, I think I would’ve been unhappy if it hit the seven month point and he still refused to look outside of his field.
Post # 11
That is literally the third double post of the night…I’m not hitting refresh and I’m only hitting the post button once. I’m just really bad at the internet.
Post # 12
Can he write at all? I run a virtual office (but we are based in Chicago) so no face-to-face interaction required.
PM if you want to discuss.
Post # 13
Hi OP, just letting you know to hang in there as well! I was around 8 months out before I landed ONE decent job (a summer class that pays around $800 a month, hardly worth living off of).
Has he considered juggling jobs? Most people in my field (post-secondary education) juggle several part-time positions to make ends meet, especially with the budget cuts to education.
I would say it wasn’t until a year after graduation that I had a solid rotation of jobs. It’s not for everyone, but I’ve accepted it as part of the job description and love the job more than the schedule or money. MANY of my colleagues dropped out before they could take full advantage of our degrees, opting to go back into secondary or elementary school because the juggling can get very stressful.
I did not expect a FT position and won’t be for the next few years. Tenureship is a bit of a mountain to climb.
Post # 14
Hang in there! I’m currently in the position your Fiance is in. I’ve been out of college since May 2011 and am still unemployed. It’s highly frustrating and can’t tell you how many times I’ve cried to my Fiance over it.
Maybe he could try to get a part time job somewhere and keep looking until the right job comes along. Good luck to both of you!
Post # 15
I am so sorry. I went through this painful process with Darling Husband when he couldnt find a job for over a year before getting engaged.
Good luck to him, you’ll both be in my thoughts and prayers.