(Closed) FI doesn’t like our honeymoon registry

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

Isn’t 7.5 a large surcharge?  Maybe you can find a lower one and he will be happier.  And if it makes him feel better, I think a small BB&B registry would be nice.  Plus it will save you from getting second hand picture frames and ugly vases from people who refuse to give you cash.

Another idea is register at places like Walmart or Best Buy for electronics and gift cards. 

Oh and honeymoon registries are just a way to ask for cash.  Weird?  It depends on your social circle.  I would never give to one because most do take some surcharge.  I’d rather have all the money go to the couple, but I am in the know about the charges.  Some people will think its cute and have no hesitations.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I personally love the idea.  We used honeyfund.com and i dont remember the %rate but it wasnt very much.  

I think alot of people like the idea, its something different than the traditional registries.

I say give it a whirl.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Honeymoon registries are kind of controversial, so if you do it then I think you both have to want one. If he’s not feeling good about it then I think you have to drop it. 7.5% might be average, but it’s still a big cut. I wouldn’t want to give away that much of my gifts.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I know how it goes when you spend a bunch of time on something only for a Fiance to come in and say in a couple seconds “I don’t like it.” Not the world’s best feeling. I do feel like 7.5% is a large cut, and that’s why I didn’t do a honeymoon registry for myself. Maybe some of the other bees have a good way to do it for less? What about the Google registry that’s been mentioned before on the blog here? Do what feels right to the 2 of you, in any case.

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m not sure what you want from people for your bridal shower.  Usually people bring gifts to those and it’s expected for you to be opening the gifts.  We already had a house before we got married and only needed a few fill-in things so we didn’t have any showers at all.  We also had our families say that we would prefer cash since we were moving and people understood that.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

I think I’m with MissAsB. When you have a bridal shower, it’s not that common for people to not bring a gift and only contribute to a honeymoon registry. Don’t get me wrong, I think people do it if there’s nothing else, but I personally wouldn’t contribute to a honeymoon registry. It’s just not my thing, and I’d rather my gift be something that is used more often.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

we had a small registry, and most of the gifts were bought by the wedding (for engagement party and shower) so most people just gave us money, or gift cards. that was our sly way of asking for money, by not really giving them a choice. maybe you could try something like that.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

A possible solution to the bridal shower is making a theme one, so everyone brings a book, or a bottle of wine, or a recipe, none of that costs much and won’t clutter up  your house.

I think not having a registry will mean most people get you cash.  🙂  When people ask about the registry say that you don’t need anything for the household but are looking forward to your honeymoon *wink wink nudge nudge*.  And that way you don’t have to give anyone a cut.  Word of mouth is a wonderful thing and there’s nothing wrong with prefering cash.

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2010

we love it. ours is with http://www.depositagift.com. actually ours is partially for the honeymoon and partially for other stuff…we need a couch! and we wanted some newlywed activities stuff. i agree about the shower part, which is one reason we chose this site b/c they offer a gift certificate at checkout that the giver can print and bring to be opened.

Post # 14
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Helper bee

My son and FDIL are using Honeyfund.com which does not take a cut unless the buyer uses PayPal.  We are planning a “Travel” theme bridal shower so guests can purchase things off their honeymoon registry as well as items that would be appropriate to take on a honeymoon.  They registered at Target for a few things for the people who insist on buying something more traditional, but we are encouraging the honeymoon registry whenever questions are asked.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I have to say that, while Fiance & I aren’t doing a honeymoon registry, as a wedding guest I LOVE THEM! Fiance & I love to experience new things (we seek out new restaurants rather than just going always to ones we’ve been to, when we travel to a place we’ve been to before, we try to do things that are new & haven’t done before, etc.)…and we love hearing about friends & family trying something new.  So, whenever possible, we tend to buy gifts that are experiences (like tickets or GCs to new restaurants) rather than things (like silverware or decor).  As wedding guests, we’d probably immediately purchase off a honeymoon fund rather than a traditional one.

Perhaps the way we went might be a compromise: Amazon Universal Registry.  Create a registry at Amazon.com…it could include all the stuff you would register for at BB&B, then add the “Add to Registry” button.  This button allows you to go to any site &, if you see something you want, you can click on this button & it will be added to your Amazon.com Registry.  There is NO fee…when a guest clicks on the item that’s from another site, Amazon.com first opens a window that asks the guest to “reserve” the item (to avoid duplicate gifts) then opens the site where the item originally came from.  NO FEE…the guest just proceeds to buy the item you wanted off another site!  And it works for tickets & activities…case in point, we put tickets to the play “The Lieutenant of Inishmore” & Paris Museum Passes on our registry.  It will simply take our guests to the purchasing site & we’ll (hopefully) get gifted these new experiences, with little to no inconvenience to our guests!  Hope that helps!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

we are doing a honeymoon registry with Disney. everybody i have talked with love the idea. this is the first time i heard about honeymoon registry and Disney is the first one i look for information. we are really pleased with the registry.

that been said. i think that a subcharge of 7.5% is a lot of money. our registry dont charge us anything. have you look into other websites?? i had heard of people using a travel agent to do a registry, the travel agent do the website. 

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