(Closed) FI doesnt like the dresses

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 17
831 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

That dress is really, really beautiful. I wish I had picked those (I had a bit of bridesmaid dress regret).

I’ve never heard of a groom having a say in bridesmaid dresses. I think you need to stand firm, they are your bridesmaids and picking the dress is the bride’s perogative. He’ll just have to get over it.

I know that’s blunt but I think he’s being pretty silly.

Post # 18
2440 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@jbbs1222:  they are so pretty!

Post # 19
3256 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@kimm99:  As long as the bride had no say in the groomsmen’s attire, that’s entirely valid.

Post # 21
1833 posts
Buzzing bee

@Duncan:  I’m a 3 time MOB who absolutely agrees that the bride chooses what her side wears and the groom picks what his side wears.  I get a bit ragey when I read about brides choosing/telling their groom what they have to wear.

Anyhoo – the dress is really beautiful and I think you should stick with it.  None of the salons we used for my girls would have allowed us to return dresses to choose something else.  I’m thinking that train has left the station.

As a two time bride and 3 time MOB, I can tell you that in all 5 of those weddings the groom cared about the vision of loveliness known as the bride and could have cared less about the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses.  I don’t want to minimize your Fiance here, but I really think it will be a non-issue on the wedding day.

Post # 22
3772 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m going to be blunt. I’m sorry, but is he wearing the dress? No? Then it doesn’t really matter what he thinks about it. 

Did you choose what he and the groomsmen were wearing? No? Then this isn’t his choice.

Post # 25
549 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I would ask him if he is saying he does not like them now becuase he saw them on your girls and they look different than he pictured. My Fiance does that. I can show him just a dress for myself or my daughters online & he likes it but once we have it on his opinion changes.

But I pretty much agree with the other Bees who say this is one area he really should not have a say in. Give him “free reign” over what he and his groomsmen wear. I put that in quotations because hopefully, he would not pick something awful just because he supposedly hates these dresses now. Good luck!

Post # 26
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Those dresses are gorgeous! My Fiance didn’t like mine either when I showed him them, but I went with my gut and ordered them anyways, they just came in and he likes them now!

Post # 27
4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I think your fiance is just going to need to get over it – for lack of a nicer way to say that. If it was a wedding element that involved just the two of you and your money then I would say it’s worth it to compromise to some degree. But this choice involves many other people and their money. Plus if the girls all like the dresses and it looks good on all of them – REALLY, that’s what matters the most! There’s no way at this point that it would even be close to reasonable to ask the girls to buy new dresses because your fiance doesn’t like these. 

And btw, I think the dresses are gorgeous.

Post # 28
2959 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I didn’t consult with FH about my dress, the BMs dresses, etc. Other than the ties matching the BMs dresses (more or less), he really isnt interested.

By The Way, I think that is one of the most beauiful Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses I have ever seen!

Post # 29
3081 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@jbbs1222:  my coworker picked out these dresses too! I like it and think its really pretty. 

Post # 30
919 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I think it’s a beautiful dress! Is it possible he’s reacting to the dresses before alterations and will like them once they fit properly?

I haven’t even shown my fiance our bridesmaid dresses, nor has he asked, lol!

Post # 31
697 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@futuremrsk18:  So using this reasoning, the bride shouldn’t have any say in the tuxes either, correct? This is rarely the case though.

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