Post # 17
That dress is really, really beautiful. I wish I had picked those (I had a bit of bridesmaid dress regret).
I’ve never heard of a groom having a say in bridesmaid dresses. I think you need to stand firm, they are your bridesmaids and picking the dress is the bride’s perogative. He’ll just have to get over it.
I know that’s blunt but I think he’s being pretty silly.
Post # 18
@jbbs1222: they are so pretty!
Post # 19
@kimm99: As long as the bride had no say in the groomsmen’s attire, that’s entirely valid.
Post # 20
Yeh its too late. im not going to ask my girls to pay for new dresses when they all love this one. Took forever to find one that would look good on all their different body types. I did have a say in the tuxes but thats cause he wasnt doing sqaut with it and i knew it was what it was he would like anyway. all he changed was the color of the tie. I think he’ll get over it. Its not like an extreme hatered, just like i dont really care for them kinda feeling.
Post # 21
@Duncan: I’m a 3 time MOB who absolutely agrees that the bride chooses what her side wears and the groom picks what his side wears. I get a bit ragey when I read about brides choosing/telling their groom what they have to wear.
Anyhoo – the dress is really beautiful and I think you should stick with it. None of the salons we used for my girls would have allowed us to return dresses to choose something else. I’m thinking that train has left the station.
As a two time bride and 3 time MOB, I can tell you that in all 5 of those weddings the groom cared about the vision of loveliness known as the bride and could have cared less about the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. I don’t want to minimize your Fiance here, but I really think it will be a non-issue on the wedding day.
Post # 22
I’m going to be blunt. I’m sorry, but is he wearing the dress? No? Then it doesn’t really matter what he thinks about it.
Did you choose what he and the groomsmen were wearing? No? Then this isn’t his choice.
Post # 23
Yeh thats pretty much what i told him last night. His cousin sent me a pic of her in her dress cause shes one of my girls and he said he didnt like it. (thats how this all got started) but yeh i told him, he’s not wearing it. it looks beautiful on all the girls and im not asking them to pay for new ones so he’s just going to have to get use to them.
Post # 25
I would ask him if he is saying he does not like them now becuase he saw them on your girls and they look different than he pictured. My Fiance does that. I can show him just a dress for myself or my daughters online & he likes it but once we have it on his opinion changes.
But I pretty much agree with the other Bees who say this is one area he really should not have a say in. Give him “free reign” over what he and his groomsmen wear. I put that in quotations because hopefully, he would not pick something awful just because he supposedly hates these dresses now. Good luck!
Post # 26
Those dresses are gorgeous! My Fiance didn’t like mine either when I showed him them, but I went with my gut and ordered them anyways, they just came in and he likes them now!
Post # 27
I think your fiance is just going to need to get over it – for lack of a nicer way to say that. If it was a wedding element that involved just the two of you and your money then I would say it’s worth it to compromise to some degree. But this choice involves many other people and their money. Plus if the girls all like the dresses and it looks good on all of them – REALLY, that’s what matters the most! There’s no way at this point that it would even be close to reasonable to ask the girls to buy new dresses because your fiance doesn’t like these.
And btw, I think the dresses are gorgeous.
Post # 28
I didn’t consult with FH about my dress, the BMs dresses, etc. Other than the ties matching the BMs dresses (more or less), he really isnt interested.
By The Way, I think that is one of the most beauiful Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses I have ever seen!
Post # 29
@jbbs1222: my coworker picked out these dresses too! I like it and think its really pretty.
Post # 30
I think it’s a beautiful dress! Is it possible he’s reacting to the dresses before alterations and will like them once they fit properly?
I haven’t even shown my fiance our bridesmaid dresses, nor has he asked, lol!
Post # 31
@futuremrsk18: So using this reasoning, the bride shouldn’t have any say in the tuxes either, correct? This is rarely the case though.