(Closed) FI doesnt like the dresses

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 32
401 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

This is one thing Fiance will not be getting much of a say in.  Obviously we will choose a color together, and me and my girls will work within that.

But what style or cut they should wear is not something he gets to decide.  He is not paying for them or wearing them, and men have no idea how difficult it can be to find a dress that is flattering on a variety of body types. 

Particularly because he already agreed to them, I’d just tell him that they’re already paid for, the girls feel comfortable and happy in them, and it’s just not feasible to ask your bridesmaids to do the dress thing all over again.  Once is enough.

Post # 34
2351 posts
Buzzing bee

@jbbs1222:  Oh! I love them! They look vintage and classy.


Tell him too bad and that his opinion would have been nice to have BEFORE this time. Its too late now.  Really, though he probably wont remember or care the day of the wedding.

Post # 35
1876 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Yep, what matters here is if you like them and if your girls like them. Sorry FI!

Post # 36
458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I think brides should get to voice their opinion and be legitimately heard, but ultimately the groom’s party is his problem/decision.  I also think that the groom should get to voice his opinion and be legitimately heard (which he did already, no one is taking that away from him), but ultimately the maids’ dresses are the bride’s decision…especially when they are already purchased.

Does he hate them enough to pay for all new ones?  Because you’re right, asking them to buy an all new dress on his whim (when his previous whim was that they were nice) is goofy.  I bet he doesn’t hate them enough to open his wallet! 😉


Post # 38
6734 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

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@lh526:  Depends if you let him have a say in your gown bc the groomsmen tuxes have to match with the tux.  If he has a say in the type of gown the bride wears, then she should also have a say in the tuxes.  Otherwise, he’s the one wearing the tux, so what’s the big deal on letting him pick it??

Post # 39
694 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I have no qualms at all about letting the groom pick the tuxes. But if the groom doesn’t get an opinion on the bridesmaids dresses, the bride shouldn’t get to dictate the groom’s choices either.

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