Post # 32
This is one thing Fiance will not be getting much of a say in. Obviously we will choose a color together, and me and my girls will work within that.
But what style or cut they should wear is not something he gets to decide. He is not paying for them or wearing them, and men have no idea how difficult it can be to find a dress that is flattering on a variety of body types.
Particularly because he already agreed to them, I’d just tell him that they’re already paid for, the girls feel comfortable and happy in them, and it’s just not feasible to ask your bridesmaids to do the dress thing all over again. Once is enough.
Post # 33
Thanks bees. this is all pretty much what I said to him. the only say he had i the dresses was the color. He said they looked fine when I showed him the model photo. So idk maybe once they are altered right and everyone is together on our wedding day he wont care as much. Which by then it will be too late so too bad for him. lol. Heres the pic of his cousin in the dress. I say it looks fine. Needs to be taken in some cause shes lost some weight since we ordered it and the straped need to be taken up which is why shes holding it up but otherwise I think its just fine.
Post # 34
@jbbs1222: Oh! I love them! They look vintage and classy.
Tell him too bad and that his opinion would have been nice to have BEFORE this time. Its too late now. Really, though he probably wont remember or care the day of the wedding.
Post # 35
Yep, what matters here is if you like them and if your girls like them. Sorry FI!
Post # 36
I think brides should get to voice their opinion and be legitimately heard, but ultimately the groom’s party is his problem/decision. I also think that the groom should get to voice his opinion and be legitimately heard (which he did already, no one is taking that away from him), but ultimately the maids’ dresses are the bride’s decision…especially when they are already purchased.
Does he hate them enough to pay for all new ones? Because you’re right, asking them to buy an all new dress on his whim (when his previous whim was that they were nice) is goofy. I bet he doesn’t hate them enough to open his wallet! 😉
Post # 37
@2BeeMrsE: haha i should tell him that. if he dislikes them that much, then hes the one shelling out the money for the new ones cause im sure not asking them too!
Post # 38
@lh526: Depends if you let him have a say in your gown bc the groomsmen tuxes have to match with the tux. If he has a say in the type of gown the bride wears, then she should also have a say in the tuxes. Otherwise, he’s the one wearing the tux, so what’s the big deal on letting him pick it??
Post # 39
I have no qualms at all about letting the groom pick the tuxes. But if the groom doesn’t get an opinion on the bridesmaids dresses, the bride shouldn’t get to dictate the groom’s choices either.
Post # 40
I only had a say in the tuxs cause i went to the tux place before he did. we had talked it over before that so i knew already what he wanted and with that in mind i went in and made the selection. later i brought him in to get measured, which was like pulling teeth to get him in even, and he made a few minor changes like he wanted a pleated shirt instead of the plain and wanted the tie to be black with the blue vest instead of blue. but i figured hes wearing it and looked fine so i didnt care.
He’s had a little say in my dress. like i’ve shown him pics of what i want and if he doesnt like it i take that into consideration. i dont want to be walking down the aisle with him thinking my bride is ugly. lol. but for the bridesmaids they’re happy, im happy and if he thinks they dont look good well too bad. cause unless he’s picking out something everyone is happy with and then paying for them, he’s gonna live with it!