(Closed) FI doesn’t want to dance with his mom…

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@napabridekelsey: Wow, this sounds EXACTLY like our dilemma. I’m very close with my dad so we are definitely doing the father-daughter dance. He just doesn’t want it and has agreed to field any concerns his mom may have about the arrangement; I agree it seems sad, but I think we just have to respect their wishes and allow our FHs to handle their crazy mamas. 😉

If she pulls something, he won’t be dancing with anyone at this point and can tackle her if he needs to! Just kidding (ahem, sort of…)

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

My Fiance doesn’t want a mother/son dance either.. It’s not that he isn’t close with his mom, because he is.. He just doesn’t want a specific song for the two of them.. He says that he’ll just dance with her at some other point in the night.. I’m not sure if it’ll upset his mom or not, but so far, he’s been a completely untraditional person when it comes to planning our wedding, he doesn’t get why things are done the way that they are and why we have to do certain things.. So I guess this one is just up to him..

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Yeah, Fiance definitely doesn’t want to dance with his mom. However it’s okay for us…because I don’t really want to dance with my Dad either. Why can’t you just have the father-daughter dance and skip the mother-son? The mother-son is kind of new, to my knowledge, and traditionally “back in the day” it was just the father-daughter. That could be your reasoning. That you wanted to do the traditional dance or whatever but you didn’t want your guests to get bored just watching people dance? I think you should probably just let him not do it. It’s his day too and if that isn’t something he wants…that’s alright. She’ll have to get over it/herself. Lol

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

Darling Husband didn’t dance with his mom.. but I still danced with my Dad.

You don’t have to do the dance.. so if he doesn’t want to then just leave it at that… that in particular is his decision and like a pp said she can get over it.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

My Fiance loves his mom, but he isn’t dancing with his mother.  It’s not his thing and it would be kind of awkward.  Your Fiance has good reasons for not wanting to dance with his mother, and I would respect that.  Yes, there is potential for regrets later, but that is his choice.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@napabridekelsey: Nope, he’s not telling her ahead of time because she THRIVES on drama, so he’s just going to make sure he is able to handle her if she kicks up a fit at the reception.

And seriously, I think our FMILs would be besties. haha

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@napabridekelsey: Good luck… PM me if you ever need to vent about her! I’m sure I’ll be able to identify. 😉

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think you need to back off. Why has he had to express for the “upteenth” time he doesn’t want to dance with her. It’s his decision. Not everyone (myself included) is blessed with wonderful parental relationships… And on that note everyone telling or suggesting we make up be nicer etc. to the parents makes one feel that much more haste.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

This lady sounds like my dad. He had something called borderline personality disorder. It’s awful to deal with cos you simply can’t rationalise with the person. If it’s like that, just let him have his way. It will let him be relaxed on his wedding day and save the trauma.

Hope it works out.

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Yeah, hubs didn’t dance with his mom either.  Worked out fine for us, and I don’t think she even noticed

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I danced with my dad but my hubby didn’t dance with his mom.  In our case it was what both of them wanted.  

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