(Closed) FI doesn’t want to have sex with me anymore it seems like

posted 8 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 46
4479 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

Seeing a therapist once a month for depression probably isn’t enough. That sounds like it’s just medication management, and he probably needs more talk therapy to treat it (in addition to meds and med counseling). But I do think it (the need for couples counseling) is pretty severe if you’re feeling sexually rejected enough that you would consider leaving the relationship.

I think the next time you feel like you need to talk to him about his constantly rejecting you, you should probably do it when you’re not also trying to get laid, which will make you both more sensitive and will be less productive! Hopefully he keeps on top of his appointments and can get some help, and things improve!

Post # 47
305 posts
Helper bee

@lonelybee12: ok good. that’s a hard one to deal with.  at least it’s not that.

Post # 48
706 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

He should not be on depression meds, IMO, without seeing a therapist in addition to a doctor. Has he ever seen a therapist for any significant amount of time? There is so much that he could learn about managing his depression (and figuring out if the root of his depression is a chemical imbalance or if there are other factors) from seeing a therapist regularly. I generally do not think ultimatums are a good idea, but I honestly believe that in this situation, you need to make the continuation of your engagement contingent on him seeing a therapist once a week for at least six months. Then you can reevaluate progress at that point and see if things have improved at all. You owe this both to yourself and him. If the relationship is that good aside from this aspect, don’t you want to do everything you can do in your power to save it? Shouldn’t he? Is there a reason that he’s against therapy, or is he just prejudiced against it? I’m not saying that therapy is the cure-all for this situation, but it sounds like it’s the best shot you two have at regaining a normal pattern of intimacy. It will even help both of you learn how to communicate your frustations more effectively. Think of it as a master’s class in being a couple :).

Post # 49
2699 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If you read my previous posts, I’m going through a very similar thing. Feel free to PM me if you want to talk.

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