(Closed) FI Family driving me to drink!

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
652 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

ugh trust me, i know how you feel. I did an open bar but only for one hour for cocktail hour and had wine, etc during dinner and i got a LOT of comments like “thanks for the 1 hour open bar”


but whatevers, I did what was best for my budget and decided to do only a one hour open bar.

Post # 4
8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I think you should go with the drink ticket idea. If your Future Father-In-Law wants to pay the entire bar bill, then do it his way. From what you have written, it would seem that if you don’t put some type of cap on the bar, it will get out of hand and you won’t be able to pay for it at the end of the night.

Post # 5
769 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Can you compromise on no full open bar, but maybe beer, wine and a (if you want) signature drink available all night w/o drink tickets?  That might end up actually being cheaper than everyone drinking four mixed drinks.  And FI’s family could booze to their heart’s content.

Post # 6
411 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I agree with @Amani – a limited open bar sounds like a great idea.

Post # 7
1161 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I would also be tempted to do open beer and wine in this situation.

Post # 8
85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

If you are doing this on your own dime, it is totally your decision.  Simply explain to your FI’s family that you cannot afford a full open bar.  They really should understand that your priority is to celebrate your wedding and the important people in your lives…not to facilitate the kind of drunken crap that will happen when a bunch of people drink 4+ drinks AND wine.

Post # 9
88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think you’re being more than generous with 4 drink tickets each and wine at dinner. I agree with other posters… they want an open bar, they can pay for it!


Good luck!

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