(Closed) Fi family is pissing me off!!! GROWL!

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Member
2263 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I have issues… but not like yours! Wow, girl. Just wow. ๐Ÿ˜ฎ 

Kudos to probably being the best bride in light of such crap. You are paying for their clothing, being more than reasonable in that area… they have NO reason except being jerks to give you crap about anything. ๐Ÿ™ I’m sorry they are not supportive as well. 

Not only unsupportive but hurtful, saying things about you guys living together. 

How does your FH feel about the situation? If his family were being that silly about going to get the rentals you are paying for… I’d seriously consider cutting them out of the wedding since they are acting like they don’t want to be in it. Only if it wouldn’t hurt your FH though. I’m just wondering if he even wants them to be anything but guests after all that drama. 

Hoping it goes better for you and I’m sorry things are so sad right now! 

Post # 4
Member
151 posts
Blushing bee

Are they WAY out of line?  Of course!  Sorry you are having so much stress from them.

 

But to me, as an old married lady, the bigger issues are:

#1 where is your Fiance in all this?  Is he defending you to them?  Why isn’t he being a man and standing up for his woman?  Does he genreally have a close relationship with these people because…..

 

#2 is this what you want your LIFE to be like?  These people are going to be in your life FOREVER! Are these the people you want to leave your (future) children with for the weekend, the night, spend holidays with, etc.?

 

Establish boundaries NOW.  Make sure your Fiance is on board and let HIM present them to his family or you are going to be MISERABLE!

 

Good luck in working this out!  I truly do wish you much happiness.

Post # 5
Member
3255 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My inlaws are ridiculous, as well. We also lived together before tying the knot, and my Mother-In-Law commented at times that I shouldn’t wear white because I wasn’t pure, people were going to have a difficult time getting excited for us because we were already living like we were married, how it was going to be awkward for us to explain to our kids someday that we had been living in sin… yadayadayadayada… lol.

The one thing I have learned in dealing with these psychos is that:

A. They will probably never change, and I’m just going to have to deal with that. It doesn’t mean I should let them abuse me, but it does mean that I don’t have to even be in contact with them other than when my SO is around to defend me.

B. It’s VITAL that your SO defend you at all times. The deal we made is that I would still attend functions where they were present and be nice with them as long as SO always stood up for me if they cornered me or started saying really rude things. 

If you have each other’s backs, you guys will be fine and eventually you’ll start seeing his family as so “out there” that it’s almost amusing. 

Hang in there, and hold on to each other tight! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 6
Member
3255 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

As for what to do about the clothes, just pay if you can and if you’ve already offered to do so.

Let them send their measurements in and deal with it themselves if they don’t fit perfectly.

And after the wedding, have as little to do with them as is possible. ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 7
Member
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Oh man that sucks! Kudos to you for killing them with kindness..I would be tempted to talk openly about all of the sex we were having and sinning we were committing just to get to them more haha. People need to realize what is the most important! Hang in there!

The topic ‘Fi family is pissing me off!!! GROWL!’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors