Post # 1
I’ve never known such selfish people. My Fiance works for his family and they absolutely hate me.. and they never even met me.. (that story is in a different post) Anyway, he basically had a talk with his father about why he always getting screwed on his pay i.e. his checks constantly bounce, they come up with stupid reasons to deduct pay, etc. His father finally admited that the family is going to pinch every dime out of paying him in order for him to “learn his lesson and to come back to them.” He was then told that he would get a “substantial pay raise” and “will get treated better” if he ends our marriage. He continues to say that he is “purposely making it hard for us financially so that he can ruin us at home”. Fiance is 27yo and his parents want him to move back with them in their tiny ass condo.
I cant even believe that they would try to bribe my Fiance like this. As if I’m not worth anything. I cant believe that they would make us suffer financially! They know that I have a son and they dont like that. They told Fiance to break up with me so that he wouldnt have to pay for the kids. WTF? I make my own money, and my Fiance loves my son and our income is combined already. To purposely sabotage someone’s life is just plain sick! I’m in tears, and I cant stop shaking. How can people be so cruel? His father is purposely trying to make it where we wont even be able to pay rent let alone a wedding! Im afraid I might have to call the whole thing off.
Im at a loss. Im just soo sick of being treated like I’m worthless.. that money is the key to getting his son back…
I dont know what to do anymore
Post # 3
I hope your fiance sternly told them to shove their pay raise and the job up their ass. Sounds like he needs to find another job,and then try to mend the relationship with his parents. Also he needs to arrange a meeting between you and his family somehow. Maybe having never met you is what is causing some (unneccesary) resentment.
Post # 4
This is psycho behaviour.
Why is your Fiance working for his family if they treat him like this?
The answer is simple to me: he needs to find another job. I know that isn’t the easiest thing to do but seriously, his parents can NOT control his life like that and he has to be the one to stand up to them.
Post # 5
He needs to quit today and find a new job. That’s ridiculous.
Post # 6
Your Fiance needs to get a new job!!!!
Post # 7
@jeye7161: What does your Fiance say to them? Has he looked for other jobs?
If his parents are being so unfair to him, maybe he shouldn’t work for them anymore.
Going off now to read why they haven’t met you yet.
Post # 8
Cut the apron strings. Seriously! He needs to get away from them as quickly as possible. That is insane behavior.
Post # 9
Wow, who are some of these people who walk the earth. He needs to call get some of this in writing and get a freakin lawyer. This is extortion, bribery, blackmail, something!
Post # 10
If i was Fiance i would be PISSED they are holding this over his head.
Post # 11
I am also 27, and from an old fashioned, overprotective family. My Fiance to be is divorced and has twin daughters and a son who i adore. I am not going to lie, it was very hard for my parents (and us) when I first started dating him. However they have welcomed him, and support me because although they are worried about my future, they want me to be happy. I agree with the previous comments he needs to find a new job ASAP, and law down the law – This is my life, this is who I love, if you love me you’ll accept it, end of story.
I am very sorry for what you are going through, and promise it will get better.
Post # 12
So I a bit confused on why this has been going on for so long…I remember your post a few months ago about the difficulties between your Fiance and his family at work and I am wondering why he hasn’t quit yet….???
Post # 13
I hope that he can find another job -pronto. They sound like they are SICK! I am so sorry for you.
Post # 14
Time for your Fiance to quit that job and find another one!
Post # 15
Wow! How awful! I can certainly understand why you are so upset about this! Hugs!
Deeeeep breaths! You mentioned that you are thinking about calling it off. First off, remember that you are marrying your Fiance, not his family. Second, it sounds like your Fiance told you about this– which is good that he is being honest with you. It sounds like he is a good guy and loves you and your son very much. That is wonderful!
That being said, the two of you need to figure out how to handle this together. If his family is interfering so much, then perhaps he should take another job. Perhaps he should distance himself from his family for a bit, and then work on repairing the relationship once he is not dependent on them for his salary. You must also figure out if you can stand this once you guys are married. His parents are always going to be around, and you might not want to deal with them (if your Fiance doesn’t stick up for you) long term. So I would take a step back and figure out how you and your Fiance can make this work together.
Post # 16
I’m wondering if that is even legal….