Post # 77
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Bumble bee
ok so he can’t get out and he can’t find a new job? So I mean I guess there’s nothing to do? Either just stay in the situation, try to support him and your family financially, or dump him and get out.
There seems to be a not so great answer for everything and I doubt you want to leave him so just stay then and try to discover new coping skills? ::shrugs::
Like seriously I dont think there is much more to say here for this situation. Re: the wedding funds, I dont even think you should be worrying about a wedding at this point.
Does his family own a beauty supply store or something?
Post # 78
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Helper bee
@Mrs. Meowerson: I know it seems like I have excuses for many, but you have to understand that we tried alot of these things already prior to me posting this.
I am a full time student and my income comes from me going to school through the GI Bill, but i dont think it will be enough. Outside of that, we are pretty much on our own. My parents had to file for bankruptcy b/c their business went bad and are moving back to the phillipines next month.
Post # 79
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Sugar bee
i am so sorry for what you are going through, like the pp’s — have you spoken to your fi about your resolutions to this CRAZY matter? … i’m not sure that we can offer more help, but i am sending you my best wishes that he gets away from them and you guys get over this bit of non-sensical drama.
Post # 80
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7298 posts
Busy Beekeeper
DEPARTMENT OF LABOR!!!!!!!!!!! Just because he is family doesn’t mean that the business doesn’t follow department of labor guidelines.
Post # 81
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Bee Keeper
@jeye7161: right, but what about my suggestions?
Post # 82
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Sugar bee
That’s ridiculous. His family wants him to “come back” to them? Do they realize he’s 27? Moving out and growing up isn’t a phase one grows out of; it’s a step in life. That’s the most insane thing I’ve ever heard. So sorry you’re having to deal with that.
Post # 83
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Helper bee
@Aubergold: They own a wholesale jewelry company and service to many stores, including beauty supplies.
I appreciate all the advice and just because I posted this doesnt mean that we have given up. I really just wanted to vent and that was it. We are still looking for jobs for him and have talked about postponing the wedding.. we put over 10g’s into it already and will have to pay 6k more for cancelling our contract with the venue. either way, we are losing money. it’s a lot to deal with and cope with.. and all i wanted to do was just vent here because I’m exhausted.
Post # 84
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Bumble bee
@jeye7161: Im sorry. Frankly im suprised one of you hasn’t gone over there and knocked them out; at least the sister. Look, keep your head up; it has to get better at some point. I wouldn’t count on his parents/sister changing their minds; they wont. But something has to give in your favor. ((HUGS))
Post # 86
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Busy Beekeeper
@Aubergold: I agree. I would have probably tasered someone by now.
Post # 87
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Bumble bee
Is ths a really old post? If not, it’s a repeat.
Just wondering…
Post # 88
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Bumble bee
@Miss Tattoo: hahaha, you made me laugh. We need to send jeye a taser gun thingy so she can go after their asses (with a mask on or some kind of disguise)
Post # 89
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Worker bee
So sorry to hear about your situation. Have you tried talking to his family? Korean parents can be a bit possessive and feel that no one is good enough for their son/daughter. It might be up to you to offer the proverbial olive branch? I haven’t read your past posts, so I apologize if you have already tried this.
Post # 90
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Honey bee
@Aubergold: I agree I would have gotten violent by now, I suppose its not the thing to do but yea…
I really hope you can figure things out, I think if you have already put that much into a wedding you should go ahead with it but thats just me. I wish you tons of luck =)
Post # 91
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Busy Beekeeper
I think he needs to get some of this in writing, and then go to the dept of labor. What they are doing is illegal, it doesn’t matter if they are family. That is total bs, I feel for you…
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