- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 2015
This is going to be long, sorry lol.
FI’s mom and step dad are on vacation for the next two weeks. FI’s little brother (24) is watching the house and pets for them. Last night, Fiance (26) and his brother had some friends over and proceeded to have a good time. I was there, along with quite a few other girlfriends of the friends that were there (one of which is almost 7 months pregnant). Around 1:00 am, all the girls were ready to go home when the guys decided to play a game called Parkhorse – which is Parkour and HORSE combined. For those who may not know: HORSE is a basketball game where one person makes a shot and then another person has to make the exact same shot otherwise they get an “H” and it goes on like that until one person spells “HORSE” and they lose, Parkour is a type of traveling I guess where you try to get from A to B in the most efficient way (i.e. jumping over fences, off walls, staircases, etc). I don’t know if they made it up or if they saw it online or something but apparently they had played it earlier in the week at FI’s brother’s house and had a lot of fun.
So, they started playing it and I walked in to the foyer where I saw Fiance climb over the staircase rail and jump over a table that has a bunch of his mom’s priceless knicknacks (stuff from her wedding). They were competing to see who could do it the fastest. I kind of freaked out and begged them to take it outside because I knew that if something happened and anything of hers got broken she would be belligerent (and I would hear it just as much as they would). They refused, the pregnant gf and I were very vocal about our disapproval – hers was more the fear that her boyfriend would hurt himself and wouldn’t be able to work, mine was obviously about them wrecking the house lol. Then FI’s brother brought out a long board and they started another competition that wasn’t that bad, so I piped down…until my Fiance did it, stood up, and basically kicked the long board away from himself (out of habit or just pure idiocy, idk). He couldn’t catch it before it rammed into the wall and left a pretty large dent/hole in the drywall.Overall, not the worst thing that could’ve happened but it set me off.
Looking back, I shouldn’t have reacted as strongly as I did but I was just so fed up. I basically yelled at Fiance and his brother and said that this was why I had asked them to go outside. FI’s brother said something along the lines of “I’m sorry, I didn’t know that was your decision to make” pretty condescendingly and that made me even angrier (because it does affect me when their mother asks me how I could’ve let them do such a thing…even though their her kids and she obviously knows that they don’t make the best decisions). Then FI’s brother basically kicked everyone out because he was annoyed that me and pregnant girlfriend kept calling them idiots. We loaded up our stuff and headed out, we were both silent on the way home. When we got home Fiance still didn’t say a word to me, so I asked “ok, so I assume you’re mad at ME now?!” And he said yes, that he didn’t think that it was a bad idea and that even if it was they were still having a good time. I said that after over 3 years he should know that I’m not the person that’s going to sit back and watch idly while someone I love is doing something stupid. We went at it like that for a few minutes, getting no where – when I got fed up that he wasn’t even looking at me when he was talking to me (we were in bed, about to go to sleep at that point) so I said forget it, rolled over and went to sleep. No cuddling or anything like we normally do.
Now that it’s morning we’ve still said barely a handful of words to each other. I tried talking with him about it again when I thought he was on a break from the game he was playing, during which time he basically repeated what he had said the night before. That he and his friends didn’t think it was a bad idea. To which I replied, well if a SOBER person is telling me something is a bad idea when I’m drunk then I’d probably at least think about it a little more. Then I stopped the conversation when his game came back on (it’s a live action computer game so he doesn’t control the fact that he has to play if he’s already started a game, he had probably died when we first started talking and that’s why I thought he was on a break) because I felt that we weren’t going to get anywhere if at least half of his attention was on the game.
Help me out here Bees. Am I totally out of line? I feel like I could’ve handled the situation better for sure, but I still also think it was a dumb idea. Usually Fiance and I can come to a consensus at least and we’ve never even gone to bed angry with each other like that before. This is a stupid fight but I honestly feel disrespected by him and his brother, like my opinion doesn’t matter? Idk. I really want to know what you guys think even if I am the one in the wrong here, I just don’t know what to do.