(Closed) FI + Guest list = Worried bride!

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What would you do about the extra guests?
    make room in the budget or go over budget? : (15 votes)
    94 %
    don't invite them even though you already confirmed the address to mail the invite? : (1 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    300 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    If it’s really important to you could you offer to pick up some extra hours to help cover the cost? Or is there something else you could cut and use that money for your extra guests? Could you make some concessions in other areas if he will agree to inviting the 12 guests?

    Post # 4
    8353 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I suggest having a sit down talk with him and discuss what your worries are. Let him know that you would like more younger people to attend. Maybe take some money from your catering budget or flowers, so you can make up the difference.

    Post # 6
    7384 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I think most brides would be happy to have only 12 extra people to worry about! 🙂  We wanted 50 and ended up with 102.  I would say adjust your budget.  Good luck!

    Post # 8
    10367 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Yeah, that is still a reallllly small wedding – and who says they all can come? We invited 102 and will end up with around 60. If you only invite 62….you could end up well below budget!!

    Post # 9
    303 posts
    Helper bee

    If it’s really important to you that those people are invited, could you find somewhere else to cut costs, as a compromise? Perhaps spend a little less on flowers, or favours (etc.. you know what I mean).

    I agree also with others that there will surely be a few people in your original list who can’t make it, maybe you could pitch it to you Fiance as a kind of built in buffer?

    Post # 12
    923 posts
    Busy bee

    edisonsgirl, I was in the same boat…kind of. We wanted to have 85 as our head count….then we put together our guest lists and got 140!! I’m the one with the enormous family. But I don’t have a problem cutting family members I’m not that close to in order to have more friends come. I see my friends more then some family members even. We ended up cutting anyone under 18 years old (since we’re not kid people anyway and it’s a formal wedding anyway), I cut back my family list and…still over by about 19 guests!! Anyway, My SO had a friend list that had people he hasn’t even talked to in YEARS so we had to go back through and really look at all the people on the list.

    Who are we close to? Who are the people that will make that day as special as possible by being there? We had to ask ourselves these are questions and now the guest list is down to around 92. Much better then the 140+!! We were also worried about not having enough young people there. All the older crowd leaves after 2 hours…there would be no one left to party with! Hahahahaha!

    This is what I would suggest you guys doing. Sit down and talk about how you want the wedding to FEEL. What you want to do other then say your vows (like dance, and laugh and celebrate). your Fiance will need top budge a little bit. Make a compromise and cut only some of his family and also extend the budget. Once my SO and I actually looked at how much it is to have only 7 extra guests we lightened up little and just went with it.

    Of course…we havn’t sent out the invitations yet so god only knows the number will change again! Hahahahaha! It’s been the least fun out of all the wedding planning, that’s for sure.

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