(Closed) FI had the best idea for remembering family members who have passed away!

posted 5 years ago in Reception
Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

I wouldn’t want to do this as a guest at a wedding. Sorry OP.

Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I think it’s sweet but also would put me in a bit of a depressing mood 🙁 My cousin who recently got married lost her grandparents months before the wedding, she did something somewhat similar, in her wedding invites she added an extra enclosure card stating they wanted for each guest to write their greates memory of their grand parents on the card and send it back w/the rsvp. The grandparents we’re the stars of this family so i feel doing this at the wedding would of brought tears, that we’re not joyful tears from a wonderful event happening, being the wedding. at first in the invite seeing that waas different and somewhat wierd but during the reception behind the table where they had their pictures and two doves in a cage was a flat screen the venue had i’m assuiming for couples pictures but instead it was a slideshow of all the stories the guest sent in with the greatest memories of the grandparent so it turned out sweet. in the end do what you want to do and whatever you feel will make you feel as if they we’re there 🙂 

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Another vote for no/weird/uncomfortable. It’s one thing to have pictures displayed that people can look at, maybe feel sad, but appreciate the fact that you’re memorializing the loved ones at your wedding. In My Humble Opinion, though, to ask them to trawl through their memories of the deceased and write down a story would completely change their state of mind from happy-wedding to nostalgic at best, sad/depressed at worst.

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

 

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palebluepetals:  this!! Much better. I think a memorial table is a little too depressing too, especially if you’re asking people to conjure up old memories and relive them at your (happy) occasion. But if you reach out ahead of time and ask if anyone *wants* to contribute to an album that would seem nice to me. That way no one feels pressured and people can glance at it IF THEY WANT TO. And if it’ll bum them out they can walk on by!

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