(Closed) FI has no friends coming to wedding :(

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1064 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Ours was a family (and close family) only wedding… at the last minute, my two beloved cousins couldn’t come because their grandmother passed away and i was really sad..my mum suggested why not invite an aunt (whom i hadn’t invited because i hate her husband) and her daughter, my cousinm who also did my hair and make-up? I was really ashamed for not having invited them before but i thought about how would they feel if i asked them to come “because there were 2 empty seats now”??? In the end i didn’t do it but managed to have a special moment with them while i was preparing for the wedding.

I e-mailed a couple of very old friends about the possibility of having them a little with me on the morning of my wedding..i was really, really ashamed of sending that e-mail but i did it anyway..and 1 did show up for a quick embrace and i cried with joy.

So i kind of had both situations and still do not feel 100% about it, though now it’s all over and it’s time for the photos and videos. I guess the ones that trully love us will understand that we can not invite ALL that we wanted..but there are still special ways to make them feel they’re loved.

As for your question, i think i would contact those friends, yes.

Post # 4
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214 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I know it is short notice, but his friends should understand. Call and invite some of them ASAP. I don’t they would be offended. They have a couple of weeks to make a decision.

I think calling is best just so you can explain the situation personally. Send invites out afterwards. I know this is horrible ettiquete, etc. But wouldn’t you rather have more of ‘your’ people there instead?

Good luck!

Post # 5
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640 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

If you have room in the budget still, invite his friends! Explain the situtation to them about his mother and they should understand.

Post # 6
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320 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Beckster329:  I think you should go ahead and invite them.  Call friends and say that you had family end up not being able to make it and that you are able to accomodate more friends.  Being on the B-list doesn’t bother me.

Post # 7
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807 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

As you now have declines, go ahead and send out a few more invites, if you have 20 declines send out 20 invites etc. This is not the end of the world and there’s no reason you should even mention that they are substitute guests.

Post # 8
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3697 posts
Sugar bee

Yes, definitely extend a few additional invitations!

Post # 10
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515 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I completely sympathise. My fiance only has a niece and nephew attending. His siblings and mother are not coming, nor are any of his friends. He first pretended it didn’t bother him, but I knew it did. I feel so bad for him that of the few people who are important to him in his life, most couldn’t be bothered to even consider coming. I’m hoping my family can help make up the deficit by helping him feel welcome, but it really won’t be the same no matter what anyone does. He doesn’t even know my family that well. The only thing I know to do is just remind him how much I love him.

Post # 11
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1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Yeah, I’d have your Fiance tell his friends that because of his mom’s list, he couldn’t invite friends, but his mom’s people fortunately flaked, so now he can invite people he ACTUALLY wants at his wedding.

 

 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

when my cousin got married she sent out invites less than 2 weeks before the wedding..and no i wasnt on the b list..she was just a procrastinator…after that late invitations dont offend me…i just pretend the bride is a procrastinator

Post # 13
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486 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would defiantly send out some more invites!

Post # 14
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7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

@Beckster329:  That’s great! I hope they can make it! 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We are going through this too.  🙁

Our wedding is across the country and most of his family said they would be happy to fly, now they are all bailing.  Out of 105 people we only have 38 yeses.  

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