(Closed) Fi has tattoo of another girls name?

posted 7 years ago in Grooms/men
  • poll: Would you want it removed or covered?

    Yes!

    Nah

  • Post # 47
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    If he loved his ex enough to get her blimmen name tatooed on himself he could bloody well get a cover up for me. That is all.

    Post # 48
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I voted no, because I have tattoo’s speicific to my husband and I wouldn’t remove them because they will always mean something to me.

    That being said… if it no longer means anything (and it sounds like it doesn’t) and he removes it or has it covered that’s up to you both to discuss. If it bothers you, I would just ask him.

    I voted no, but I don’t think it’s as easy as yes or no.

    Post # 49
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2014 - Kentucky Center for the Performing Arts

    If it was my guy I would want it removed especially once I am his wife. And he should want it gone as well.

    Post # 50
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I wouldn’t exactly force him at gun point but I would definitely tell him that tattoo makes me feel uncomfortable and that removing/covering it would mean a lot to me. 

    Thank goodness I don’t have to deal with it though, my SO doesn’t like tattoos at all and neither do I. We don’t mind them on other people, they’re just not for us 🙂 

    Post # 51
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    And this is why I always swore I’d never get a tatoo that symbolized anyone besides my own children! 

    That said, I’ve never had nor plan to have a tatoo anyway. And if my SO had one of a former girlfriend I probably would have asked him to cover it before we were engaged. 

    Post # 52
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

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    @jadlnc:  I’m convinced that having someone’s name tattood on yourself is a guaranteed break-up. Im not a fan of tattoos to begin with but the name thing is just an all around bad idea.

    I wouldn’t want it covered up – I’d want it removed and gone. I think it’s a bit much to expect your spouse to have to look at your ex’s name every time they see you naked. 

    Post # 53
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    Alli was part of his life and neither he nor you can deny that. However, I wouldn’t want to see that, and would prefer him to either cover it with clothing or ink!

    Post # 54
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    Firstly, I would wonder how someone could be so dumb as to get a partner’s name tattooed on them… that is really daft.

    That aside, covering it up would depend on my partner’s opinions. I wouldn’t care. I’d think it was pretty funny that he was wearing a giant monument to his previous stupidity permanently on his arm though, and would tease him remorselessly about it.

    Post # 55
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

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    @Hyperventilate:  +1. It’s his choice. If it bothered me (and I think it would), I wouldn’t have started dating him to begin with. My ex has my name across his back in giant letters. It makes me laugh but I’m not sure how his wife feels about it 😛 

    Post # 56
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

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    @MexiPino:  Kids can’t be dicks and cut you off too. I wouldn’t get a tattoo that symbolized anything other than something personal to me. I’m only guaranteed to live with myself forever. 

    Post # 57
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    @lcutter711:  Would you get or do you have any tattoos?  You guys could get something together – not the same thing, but go together, make a thing of it.  Thankfully, her name is short and hopefully not that big so it could be an easy cover up. 

    Post # 58
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @lcutter711:  i would want it covered, but I wouldn’t be overly insistent about it – I’d probably poke fun at it. 

     

    Post # 59
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    Busy bee

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    @rebwana:  I’ve got a friend who had “Ashley” on his hip changed to “Trashcan.” It is one of my favorite tattoos ever.

    Post # 60
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

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    @Apple_Blossom:  +1. I don’t date guys wit tattoos of anyone’s names. It’s funny because my ex-husband had my name tattooed across his chest BIG as day and now he’s remarried 🙂

    Post # 61
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    Busy bee

    I had my exhusband’s initials. It was a very strange font and no one actually knew what it was unless they asked. My boyfriend didn’t have to ask me, I just removed it. I know his personality, I knew it would bother him, and I felt it was disloyal to him.

    It would be like him wearing a wedding ring from a previous marriage, it just didn’t seem right to me. That being said, some people really don’t care, so you guys as a couple need to decide if it’s an issue.

    I have had several tattoos removed, if it’s a really good place (and do your research) then you shouldn’t scar. I had one removal that scarred and it’s because the doctor was so sensitive to her client’s desire for immediate results so she just went way too powerful and I burned badly. The trick is, make sure they understand that you are more concerned with scarring than you are with “fast” results. Removal takes time, I would rather pay and do 10 sessions and not get a scar than have them use more power on the laser, sure it only took 5 sessions but now I have a scar instead of the tattoo. Even the one I had that scarred, no one realizes it was a tattoo, my skin just looks ‘off’ there, the initials are completely gone with no scar, it took about a year and was about $2,000. 

     

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