Post # 1
This is a bit of a rant……but I am so annoyed I need to vent!
Our wedding is in less than 4 months and my Fiance has yet to ask my brother to be in the wedding party! He has planned on having him as an usher since the beginning when we both picked our people….but he’s the only person he hasn’t asked yet! I have told him he needs to do this ASAP because at this point it is just plain rude that he has not asked him yet…..we don’t see them all the time but often enough that he can’t use that as a reason why. Just last night my brother stopped at our house and my Fiance didn’t ask him…..after he left I got mad at my Fiance because I just don’t understand this…..I was like don’t you understand how he has to feel right now, it’s so close and he doesn’t think he’s involved in our wedding…..I’m honestly hurt that he has waited this long.
Is it fair of me to give him a couple days to do or I’ll ask him myself?
Post # 3
just ask. you said he was only going to be an usher anyway… i don’t see why your Fiance would have to ask…
Post # 4
You shouldn’t ask him. Even though it will solve the immediate problem, the brother will still be left wondering why his own brother didn’t ask. Have you asked your Fiance why he is procrastinating?
sorry, I misread the post. If he is your brother and his role is to be an usher, I would ask him yourself. Usher is not a role that is the exclusive domain of the groom.
Post # 5
@julies1949: it’s her brother, not his.
Post # 7
My brother is an usher in our wedding, I asked him myself.
BUT I am frustrated that my fiance hasn’t asked his brothers about having their children be our flower girls/ring bearer, so I can relate. 🙂
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
I agree with everyone else, just ask him yourself. He might not understand that to you, 4 months is very close, since to him it’s still a whole 4 months away. My Fiance definitely wouldn’t be stressing out at 4 months. Like I posted in the pet peeves board, he even forgot to invite any of his friends to his own graduation party (that month) and I had to call everyone to invite them.