- 3 years ago
- Wedding: June 2017
I knew better than to ask when we were watching “Four Weddings” last night, but when I saw a woman wearing a dress very similar to mine, it came out like word vomit. “What do you think of her dress babe?” I asked Fiance. “It’s [email protected]#!ng ugly” he replied. “What don’t you like about about it?!?” I asked in horror. “Too many frickle frackles things, it’s ugly” (referring to the ruffled bottom of the dress which is EXACTLY the same as mine). In a panic I text his sister about it (who is one of my bridesmaids). Her reply had me in tears. She apparently told her husband (FI’s close friend and one of our groomsmen) what was going on and showed a pic of me in my actual dress (which she knows I’m in love with). Her husbands reply? “It’s [email protected]#!ng ugly, too much of that ruffle looking sh!#, I bet (FI) would probably say the same thing”. Now why ON EARTH she thought sending that to me was a good idea is beyond me but here I am, with deposit already put down on a dress that Fiance may hate. I wish I was one of those people who didn’t care what other people think but I’m not. I think most brides would at minimum prefer that most people think their dress is beautiful. I’m definitely one of them.
A little back ground, the dress I picked is NOTHING like what I thought I wanted. I wanted a designer blush mermaid or natural waist, (not super fluffy) ball gown with some sort of layered bottom (that tattered rag/organza rosette look). I have yet to try on anything like that, as DB doesn’t really have such dresses and that’s the only place I’ve been so far. I was shocked myself when I put on this uber ruffled bottom, dropped waist, stark white, ball gown at DB and cried like a baby. I felt beautiful in many dresses I tried at DB, but this one felt like me. I felt like a bride! I had seen pics of similar dresses before but thought the ruffles were a bit too “loopy” and too much. I was surprised the ruffles didn’t bother me one bit because I just loved how I looked and felt in it. I put a $300 deposit on it a couple weeks ago. It’s non refundable.
I know this dress is not most of the bees cup of tea. I don’t really get “wow!” or “it’s stunning!” etc. from anyone I’ve showed it to besides my close family. I loved it enough for that not to bother me until yesterday, when my Fiance expressed extreme distaste for the ONE element of my dress I was slightly unsure of. I’m also not thrilled that Future Sister-In-Law showed like 4 more people (who will be at the wedding) the pic of me in my dress attempt to back pedal and tell me other people thought it was pretty. At this point I feel like everyone has seen the damn dress except for the groom!
I still love the dress but I’m just so bummed about this whole thing I’m kind of over it. What would you do? Part of me wants to start all over and shop/ pick out a new dress by myself and not let a soul see it until I’m coming down the isle.
Fiance doesn’t even know which dress he commented on that started all this and he doesn’t rememeber what any of them look like at all (I had been watching back to back episodes for hours). He insists that he will love what ever I love, and that he’s going to think all dresses are ugly on anyone besides me (he’s trying oh so hard to make me feel better).
What say the bee’s?
Buy a new dress? (And not give anyone a chance to give an opinion this time/ potentially lose the $300 deposit)
Try on more dresses? (Maybe I’ll find a blush dream dress, or maybe nothing will make me feel like the ruffle one did, or maybe I’ll be even more confused)
Keep the dress (Because I do love it, despite the fact half my guest have seen it now and some people hate it)
Side note my dress budget is around $1300
It was hard to get pics of the Four Weddings Dress. It’s a beaded boddice and the waist is dropped much lower than mine. The ruffle bottom (which has caused all this controversy) is IDENTICAL to mine.
And “my” dress