(Closed) FI hates my dress, and so does his groomsman. (Pics & poll) WWYD?

posted 5 years ago in Dress
  • poll: What would you do?

    Buy a new dress

    Try on more dresses and think about it

    Keep the dress

  • Post # 2
    20 posts
    • Wedding: October 2016

    If you like the dress, go with it. Your fiance is marrying you, not the dress. His feelings will probably change when he sees you glowing on your wedding day.

    Post # 3
    1786 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    Those dresses look way different. I would not fret it. You love it and you will reflect that in your confidence that day. My husband and I watch say yes to the dress and several times I asked him what he thought about mermaid gowns. He would say he didn’t like the ruffles or something about it looked “feathery”. But at the wedding he kept telling me how much he loved my dress and we decided I looked like a pretty peacock princess lol. Take into consideration that you and your body are far different than the girls on tv. Especially your complexion. That goes into the overall look ALOT. 

    Post # 4
    1939 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    My husband had SO many opinions on what he thought was a pretty or ugly dress but post wedding he said, I know you wore a white dress, I couldn’t tell you exactly what it looked like but you looked absolutely stunning. I’m positive that most men (I could be wrong but we can let other bees chime in) would say something similar. 

    Post # 5
    1819 posts
    Buzzing bee

    So sorry bee! This is a tough one. I do think he will think you are the most beautiful person in the world the day of your wedding! However, if the stress of it all will eat you up, can you see if you can try on any other dresses at DB and move the deposit to another one?  For what its worth, I think you look stunning in that dress. Its all up to you and what feels best. Do you love that dress? If so, rock it! To be honest, my husband told me how beautiful I looked the day of our wedding but I never asked him his opinion of my dress. I love it, so I rocked it. That’s all that really matters. Good luck!

    Post # 6
    1189 posts
    Bumble bee


    Who gives a f*ck what the groomsmen think? His sister is an idiot for showing her husband a picture and then an idiot again for passing along his opinion.

    As for your Fiance, I would take his comments with a grain of salt. It sounds like he wasn’t really paying attention…and quite frankly, most of the brides on that show come off a bit obnoxious and that probably played into his perception.

    If you love the dress, that’s all the matters. Your Fiance is not going to notice ruffles, he will see your smile and happiness. and by the way, you smile is HUGE in that dress, you look incredibly happy and beautiful.

    Post # 7
    9758 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: City, State

    Since you’ve only put down a deposit can you apply that to a different dress at the same store?

    Post # 8
    937 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

    I think it looks great on you, but totally understand your concern. If I were in your situation I would buy a new dress because your wedding pictures and video last a lifetime and if my fiance hated my dress it’s not like it just goes away. This may sound super vain but in addition to me feeling like a bride, it’s important to me that I also give him his perfect vision of a bride on our wedding day so if I had prior knowledge that he hates a dress very similar to mine I would buy a new one. If I didn’t know then that’s different but since you know it might be upsetting to him when he see’s you if he still doesn’t like it. 

    Post # 9
    900 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I like yours much better, personally.  Also, I think the dropped waist in the 4 weddings one is a bit unusual and that’s fine for itself.  But I can see a guy thinking it looks weird.  

    The guys I know (and have actually somehow had this conversation with because my sis and mom and I used to watch way too many of those shows too and we’d get my dad or brothers or their friends opinions at times)–don’t care for mermaid styles or dropped waists like the TV dress.  So I bet the ruffles caught their eye because it’s just not a typical dress outline that they have in their head.  On your day, he’s going to think you’re stunning.

    You look beautiful in your dress and it’s lovely!  

    Post # 11
    2165 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: NJ

    Don’t talk about dresses to him again. He will forget all about them. The dress is nice, I really like the beading around the waist & back.

    Guys are different. When he sees you in the dress, he will just be thinking about you, he isn’t going to say “Damn! I am marrying someone who chose THIS DRESS? Yuck!”

    Post # 12
    129 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    If I were in your situation I would have to get another dress because I wouldn’t be able to walk down the aisle thinking he hated what he was seeing.  I would also NOT BRING UP DRESSES AGAIN AND NOT LET ANYONE ELSE HAVE PICTURES OF ME IN MY NEW DRESS.

    Good luck.

    Post # 13
    568 posts
    Busy bee

    If it makes you feel any better, I just got married a month ago and when I asked my husband if he remembered my dress he could barely describe it. (“Ugh, I think it was sparkly, and the neckline was like this…or maybe like this… and it had sparkles, ummm.”) I’m guessing your fiance doesn’t care as much as you think he cares (I mean that in a nice way… he cares more about you not the dress). If you love it, and you feel beautiful, it will show — and that’s what he will remember.

    Post # 14
    878 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2017

    when Fiance would watch say yes to the dress and look through bridal magazines with me, he would point out all the dresses he didn’t like…hate and lots of interesting words were used to describe certain styles. Fast forward to my first two bridal salon visits. I have not picked a dress yet so I showed him pictures of dresses I tried on. Quite a few styles were on his hate list but he loved hem on me. Point is…I wouldn’t change a dress you love based off of what he said. You look beautiful in it and I have a feeling he will love it on you as well. 

    Post # 15
    15 posts

    You look SO HAPPY in that dress! I say keep it. It looks amazing, and you look amazing in it because you clearly love having it on. Chances are your fiance won’t remember not liking the other one. You don’t want to look back and wish you had gotten the one you wanted. Your fiance is not going to look back and wish you had gotten one that he wanted.

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