(Closed) FI hates my dress, and so does his groomsman. (Pics & poll) WWYD?

posted 5 years ago in Dress
  • poll: What would you do?

    Buy a new dress

    Try on more dresses and think about it

    Keep the dress

  • Post # 61
    4891 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

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    mrsbrizz2017:  your last post really conveys the feelings you have towards your dress. No other dress sounds like it will match up .FWIW I think you look amazing in that dress!!! Most people could not pull off that dress….you don’t just pull it off you look super beautiful and make me totally envious of your gorgeous figure 😉


    Post # 62
    869 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

    I would pick another dress with similar style and less going on at the bottom… But this is you’re day and just make sure you love what you pick 

    Post # 63
    224 posts
    Helper bee

    The dress suits your fun personality well but do they have a non-strapless version?

    Post # 64
    122 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

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    mrsbrizz2017:  i’m crossing my fingers you go look at other dresses but go home with the original

    you look AMAZING in it!! 

    Post # 65
    1295 posts
    Bumble bee

    It sounds to me like you jumped the gun buying the dress.. you didn’t even try on your vision for what you originally wanted.  Everybody feels pretty in a white dress being pulled in and clamped just right!  But that dress doesn’t look very flattering… I agree with others that it swallows you up and it becomes all about the ruffles.

    Definitely vote for returning it and shopping for another one, maybe not even at DB.

    Post # 66
    114 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2007

    The only “UGLY” thing in this entire scenario is your Future Sister-In-Law. There seems to be one of these in every family. At least you now know who does NOT have your back in a crisis. About the dress…..

    While the designers of both had something similar in mind, they are also vastly different from each other. The one on TV actually looks awkward. It’s form fitting until it gets past her thighs, then becomes a mass of ruffles (and doesn’t quite ruffle the same as your dress). It seems to lack balance, and looks like two different dresses merged together.

    Yours, on the other hand, looks like it was made for you. The waist is right where it should be, the beads and/or sequins add a nice touch, and those lovely ruffles do add a fun flair to match your personality (what I can see of it, anyway). The ruffles on your dress also flow nicer than they do on the other dress. They really are different. You are drop-dead gorgeous in a dress that flatters your figure perfectly, and your happiness radiates to the point of becoming nearly palpable.

    As a bridesmaid, your Future Sister-In-Law should be helpful and supportive. Instead, she’s acting very immature as evidenced by her attempts to sabotage you. Don’t cave to her antics. KEEP THE DRESS!!!

    Post # 67
    255 posts
    Helper bee

    you look beautiful and your dress looks very different with the different waist lengths. 

    Post # 68
    677 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

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    mrsbrizz2017:  this comment is less about your dress (which isn’t my cup of tea), but more about your Future Sister-In-Law and her husband.  Unlike many PPs, I see absolutely nothing wrong with their comments.  

    They just want you to look what they consider attractive. (You don’t have to agree!) There is nothing “ugly,” or mean or evil about that.  All they have done is criticize your choice of wedding dress.  They haven’t attacked you as a person.  

    Have people really gotten so pathetically sensitive, that it’s considered “evil” to call a dress ugly?  Or are the women on this site so fake that every single bride in every single dress “beautiful.”

    OP your dress is definitely too froofy for my taste.  Apparently, I’m not alone in my opinion.  You have to decide whose opinion matters the most for you: yours, your fiancé’s, the general public’s and you have to go with it.  

    But please don’t be angry at your Future Sister-In-Law and her husband for being honest with you.  

    Post # 69
    1849 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I love ruffles but not that dress, sorry bee.


    BUT if you love it, wear it. They will love how you look on your day, no matter what.

    Post # 70
    492 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

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    mrsbrizz2017:  I’d say try on more dresses and think about it. And at the end of the day, whatever you pick – whether it’s this one or another one – your fiance is marrying you, not the dress.

    Post # 71
    3589 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

    From your last post, it sounds like you really really love that dress! Therefore I think you should keep it. You could have a look around just in case but unless another dress truly steals your heart, don’t buy one that doesn’t make you as happy just to please other people. You will be joyous and radiant and that is all anyone will remember! Your Future Sister-In-Law has acted very badly, but don’t let her or the groomsmen get to you. People’s tastes are so different and you can’t cater to everyone! As for your Fiance, I repeat what people have said that he will love you in anything and in the whirl of the day might not even remember the details of your dress!

    Also I actually think your dresses are quite different. The Four Weddings one is tight to the thighs and then juts out quite abruptly into ruffles, whereas yours widens out more gradually from the drop waist. I think the ruffles look kind of random on the FW one and much more natural and graceful on yours, so your Fiance probably doesn’t just hate all ruffles but just didn’t like them on that particular dress!

    Post # 72
    37 posts

    I think it’s awful that your future sister in law and groomsman gave you that kind of feedback about your dress. She must have taken pleasure in that in making you feel bad. Obviously that dress was special enough for you to buy it for your wedding day, and they both trashed it.

    I think your dress is different and fabulous. I also agree with the others about your fiancee not remembering the dress from the TV show. Yours IS different but has the same style of ruffles. I actually like yours way better than on the TV.

    I guess if you have trouble getting over the negative feedback, I would turn it into a positive and go back out and enjoy trying other dresses. If you find one, then great. If not, then i would stay with your dress. Most men are just blown away by seeing their bride no matter what. i hope he is the same.

    Post # 73
    3292 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I’m sorry, but who gives a fuck what anyone thinks about your dress. YOUR dress. For YOU to wear. Your fiance/husband won’t be wearing it. Your SIL won’t be wearing it. The groomsman won’t be wearing it. You will be wearing it. 

    Also, NEVER ask a man his opinion on a random (to him) dress that someone else is wearing. In my experience, he will almost always say he hates it if you want him to say he likes it, and he will say he likes it if you are secretly hoping he’ll say he hates it. My point: men have no clue about this stuff. They really don’t care. Just wear the dress you love and be done with it. 


    Post # 75
    67 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    Your dress looks so different from the 4 weddings dress, and you look absolutely amazing. Boys don’t like the ideas of things, but seeing it ON YOU puts a weird description (ruffled bottom) into perspective.


    Bottom line, $300 still isn’t a huge deposit, so you can still change your mind. I think this dress looks perfect on you!

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