(Closed) FI hates my dress, and so does his groomsman. (Pics & poll) WWYD?

posted 4 years ago in Dress
  • poll: What would you do?
    Buy a new dress : (94 votes)
    24 %
    Try on more dresses and think about it : (111 votes)
    28 %
    Keep the dress : (189 votes)
    48 %
  • Post # 91
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    SaraJeanQ:  it’s a fair point. I don’t think people should expect to cry – I didn’t – but if you get a feeling for one dress that you didn’t with any other, I think it’s normally a sign.

    That said, I think OP should try on her first dress again, alone, and see if she still has the same feeling when her family is not there.

    Post # 92
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    46 posts
    Newbee

    Honestly, there is nothing wrong with your dress at all; it’s beautiful!. In fact, this style seems to very popular among brides nowadays. At the end of the day, however, it doesn’t matter what dress you wear: your husband-to-be is going to think you’re absolutely beautiful.

    Post # 95
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    mrsbrizz2017:  for what it’s worth, in the photo you just posted of yourself, I can’t even tell you’ve apparently put on weight since then. I’m not just saying that. That’s how well the wedding dresses suit you – the first in particular but the second also.

    Your FI’s reaction also says to me that he loves your curves – no matter what you might think about your figure – and wants you to wear a dress that shows them off. So no ballgowns for you!

    Post # 96
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    330 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2017 - Grandover Resort

    mrsbrizz2017:  Love the Rosamund!! I tried it on too in that same color. I fell in love with the top because it was just sooo comfy to me. It was my runner-up but its the only picture of me in another wedding dress (besides the one I purchased) I still have in my phone so I can still look at it once in a while. 

    –You look GREAT in it!! I’d go with that one, but I’m a little bias lol

    Post # 97
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    113 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2017

    What I’ve learned is that everyone’s taste is SO different especially on wedding dresses. At the end of the day, despite all the negativity, do YOU still like the dress? If not, I would definitely change it. If you still love it, then it’s fine. However I do think timelessness is important. My taste from 5 years ago is already super different. I dont want to get something just trendy now.

    You should be able to shift the deposit to another dress?

    Post # 98
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    36 posts
    Newbee

    mrsbrizz2017 :  I think most men don’t understand wedding dresses. I watch four wedding and say yes to the dress all the time with my fiance. He has yet to like any of the dresses we have seen. The wedding dress is about you and how you feel in it. So if it makes you happy, you should wear it (:

    Post # 99
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    Buzzing bee

    mrsbrizz2017 :  To be honest, when people say they want a timeless dress, I dont think that really happens unless they are getting a dress that looks like something from the 50s. Then I guess you could make that argument. Puffy sleeves were 80s. Satin in the 30s. Who is to say that the next decade will bring back sleeves, then all sleeveless dresses will be dated!

    And your fiancee won’t remember. Mine cant remember to take the trash out…every Wed. I can’t imagine yours will recall a dress he half saw on a TV show that he probably didnt want to watch in the first place.  🙂

    Keep your dress!

    Post # 100
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    61 posts
    Worker bee

    You are one frickin’ beautiful lady! Geez. He’s gonna spaz out when he sees you in that dress. It’s far and away perfect.

    Post # 101
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    When your Fiance sees you hes going to see all of you & think your beautiful. Were the ones that really notice the dress & if you love keep it! If you dont love it DB will exchange for another dress regardless of what the receipt says. I did it 4 months after I bought the first dress with no problem.

    Post # 102
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    767 posts
    Busy bee

    did you make a decision on that dress?

    I’m sure it will be beautiful!

    Post # 103
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    I would stick with whatever you love. If you want to keep searching for the blush dress, go for it. If you want to stick with the one you have, which is beautiful, then keep it. It’s your dress and you’re the one that has to feel beautiful wearing it. 

    As for what your Fiance said, I’ve watched episodes of Say Yes to the Dress and Four Weddings with mine and he’ll say in one episode, oh god that’s a hideous dress and then he’ll see the exact same dress or one very similar in another episode and his reaction will be positive. I don’t think guys notice as much as we do. And if he really doesn’t like the ruffles, he may not even notice on the wedding day because he’ll be too caught up in how much he loves you, how beautiful you are and how happy he is that you’re his wife. 

    Post # 104
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2016 - Garden

    I agree with PP, your FH is marrying you not the dress, but really that dress is gorgeous! He hasn’t seen it on you, so you can’t really assume he doesnt like it on you because he sees it on someone else. Perspectives can change 🙂 In person is always the best way to judge something than online or on TV. 

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