(Closed) FI hates my dress

posted 7 years ago in Dress
  • poll: What would you do if FI hates your dream dress?

    Choose a new one

    Buy it anyway

    Have a dress made that looks exactly the same but floor length

  • Post # 17
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @beesbelle: I agree with 

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    lovelylight99. Does he want to fork over the extra $1K for a longer dress? 😉 I understand the dress you showed him is far away so yes, try on something similar in tea length and full, without him there, and decide for yourself.

    Post # 19
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2014

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    @lovelylight99:  Agreed. This is precisely why I haven’t shown Fiance my dress. On the wedding day, he will love it because it’s me in it. Plus, I don’t tell him what to wear, so I don’t want to put him in a position where I either have to wear something I don’t love and wind up resenting him, or make him feel hurt/disrespected for not listening to him.

    Post # 20
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    My Fiance has no idea what kind of dress I bought for our wedding and he has told me that he doesn’t care what kind dress I am in as long as I am in it. He says all that matters is that he is marrying me. No wonder I love him so much! Cool <3

    Post # 21
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Disney

    I think I’d keep looking if you havent purchased. Give him your reasons for a tea length though, and maybe look together? Compromise and find something you’ll both love.

    Post # 22
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Would you consider the long gown for your ceremony and then changing into tealength for your reception/party (whatever you are doing in Vegas). That way your Fiance gets the traditional but you get the fun dress you want. Lots of used dresses out there if budget is a big concern.

    Post # 23
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    Honey bee

    I want to say, choose what you love, and you feeling beautiful and happy on your wedding day will trump his original feelings…HOWEVER, my Fiance was the one person I cared about liking my dress, so I personally would have a hard time in that situation, and would probably choose something else.

    Post # 24
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    I’d keep looking…

    Post # 25
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    If you know he doesn’t like it then don’t do it. Do you want him to see you coming down the aisle and be disapointed? I wouldn;t. 

    Post # 26
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge

    Keep looking but if you still really have your heart set on this dress than buy it.  He isn’t going to care on the day of.  Men have different ideas of what their brides look like but when it comes down to him seeing you for the first time he’ll think you look beautiful in a paper sack.

    I showed a picture of my dress (me in it but my head cut off on the WB) to my Fiance and didn’t tell him it was me.  He said “It’s kinda plain” funny thing is when I showed him the stock photo he loved it.

    Post # 27
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @beesbelle:  I would be torn too. Normally I shrug off when my Fiance doesn’t like my clothing or whatever because how I FEEL in something is what matters. But, on a special day like our wedding I cared a lot of what he thought.. I’d say keep looking but no matter what you wear he will think you are STUNNING!

    Post # 28
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

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    @NurseMandie:  this exact same thing happend to me. I showed Fiance a bunch of wedding dresses on models and the dress he really loved I bought. So I showed a pic of me in the dress with my head cut off and he said ‘meh its okay’. jeeeez.

    Post # 29
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I showed DH pictures of me in dresses that I tried on for that very reason; I didn’t want to walk down the aisle in something he hated.  He waited 50 years to get married to me, and while he didn’t have a scrapbook of wedding ideas from childhood, he did have a vision of how he thought I would look.  There were dresses I loved that he wasn’t crazy about and vice versa.  In the end, the dress I wore was something I loved and that he loved on me.  If you’re not opposed to him seeing you in the dress, take him with you to try on dresses to see what he likes.  Then you can pick out the dress later, he’ll still be surprised, but you’ll have a better idea of what he has in mind.

    Post # 30
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge

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    @raisedonrobbery:  Men. They are just so clueless when it comes to anything about weddings.  Mine is insisting that a $10,000 wedding is WAY too expensive and extravagant.  He asked if I was having crystal chandeliers?!?!?! Ummm no this is figuring a lot of DIY’s, my uncle and cousin doing our photos, a friend officiating, keg beer only.  Sometimes I want to hit him with a frying pan lol.

    Post # 31
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Maybe you could find a floor length dress that has red accents in it?

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