(Closed) FI having heart surgery 16 weeks before wedding. I think I just need a hug.

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I’m so sorry to hear about your Fiance. But, it sounds like he has really great doctors and a really great Fiance standing by him. You guys will get through this.

Would you be able to start the wedding invitations earlier than 16 weeks prior to the wedding? I would try and get as much stuff done before his surgery in order to be able to fully concentrate on him, but that is just my opinion.

Sending tons of hugs, thoughts and prayers your way <3<3

Post # 4
9142 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Lots of support coming your way.  Any surgery involving the heart is nerve wracking and I couldn’t imagine dealing with it a few months before a wedding!  Try to pace things out for yourself so you don’t get too stressed out.  The faster he starts PT after the surgery, the better.  It will be difficult for both of you but it will also strengthen your relationship.

Post # 5
1896 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Sending you hugs and best wishes!  Is there are way you could send out the invites earlier?  There’s nothing wrong about doing that and it would give you time to concentrate on helping him.  Wish you guys the best and keep us all posted!

Post # 6
5238 posts
Bee Keeper

@LastGirlStanding:  ((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))


Your wedding will be all the more meaningful after this experience. 


I actually got to watch an open heart surgery as a student. It was AMAZING. The doctor who did it made it look effortless. Remember, These guys do this stuff day in and day. They are experts, and you and your fiancee will be in good hands!


Post # 7
27 posts
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’m so sorry to hear this! I can’t imagine doing both of these at the same time. In the end his health is the most important thing-  is there any way to postpne the wedding to relieve some of the stress off both of you?If not I agree with everyon else about getting as much done ASAP as possible.

Sending BIG hugs!!

Post # 8
9682 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@LastGirlStanding:  I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. I recommend that you enlist all the support that you can. You won’t have the time or energy to manage DIY invitations so ask a friend for help or just buy them. Do whatever you can to make life easier on yourselves. 

I like the idea of being legally married before the surgery. It may give you both strength to face it as man and wife ๐Ÿ™‚ you will get through it! 

Post # 9
281 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Sending you all of my positive energy!

I can’t imagine how scary this must all be for you both, but keep positive – that’s all you can do ๐Ÿ™‚


Big hugs sweetie!!

Post # 10
205 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’m sorry to hear you both have to go through this! If it helps at all (though I’m sure it won’t) my roommate had open heart surgery last year. I was expecting him to come home and have to be on the couch for weeks/months – but he was basically 100% better after about 2 weeks! It’s really amazing how quickly the body can heal.


My roommate had to have a heart valve replaced with an artificial one. He was ridiculously nervous to the point of tears when he thought about getting the surgery, but his surgeon told him that although it’s invasive and scary-sounding, that it’s a procedure that surgeons do all the time. 


Good luck to you both!


Post # 11
9686 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

My thoughts are with you.  I hope and pray all goes well!

Post # 12
12248 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Aww, I’m so sorry you two have to deal with so much stress!

But how AMAZING is it that he more than doubled the life of his aorta? Clearly he is SUPER healthy!

He’s DEFINITELY going to be fine. If he was diagnosed with a cancer with a 99% survival rate, you’d be jumping for joy!

And soon the looming threat of needing a replacement won’t be floating over your heads (for another 10 years at least, right?). And that’s going to be an AMAZING feeling!

Post # 13
641 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@LastGirlStanding:  I am so sorry to hear this, but I am also glad you are both doing everything you know how to be prepared. Sending such positive thoughts your way and his. Best of luck, and congratulations on your upcoming wedding!

Post # 15
473 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Hi there,

It must be a horrible situation and I will pray for you!


If you are worried about wedding stuff maybe you could get the DIY invitations out of the way now? I sent mine out really early!! It would give you more time in May to look after your fiance.

Post # 16
953 posts
Busy bee

Sending you hugs and keeping you both in my thoughts!

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