FI is Atheist, I'm Christian. How can we raise our future children?

posted 5 years ago in Interfaith
Post # 62
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - City, State

ChicoryCreek:  Notice how you took my one sentence completely out of context. That was me speaking to OP as a believer to a fellow believer. You are not one, so you do not need to criticize my CHRISTIAN use of the word “saved.”

Post # 63
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - City, State

rosecut:  OP said herself she can only pray that her Fiance will become a Christian. I was merely supporting (and agreeing) with her same belief.

Post # 64
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Bumble bee

GirlyGirl24:  Just because someone isn’t Christian, doesn’t mean they’re unknowledgable about Christianity. Many athiests take the time to read and learn about many religions. 

Post # 65
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Cory_loves_this_girl:  well, if I don’t accept Christ as my savior, where do you think my eternal soul goes?  Sadly, I have a pretty good idea…

Post # 66
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Bumble bee

GirlyGirl24:  exactly. hence my comment. i don’t like it when you, OP, or anyone else says things like that. it leaves a bad taste in my mouth. just a personal opinion. and i realized that it wasn’t originally your statement so i changed my comment. what more do you want? i’m sorry, k?

 

Relax

Post # 67
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

OP was looking for advice and discussion on interfaith marriage. I don’t think the thread needs to be Christians vs. Atheists.

Post # 68
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

MoonAndStars:  I completely agree.  I initially wanted to answer her question.  As a child of such a marriage, I can attest to being raised in a wonderful home.  My mom is a very open-minded Christian and my dad is a very open-minded Atheist.  Seeing some of the posters attack such a marriage angered me.  I am very happy to be alive and my parents are very happy together.  Not every couple needs to agree on faith!

Post # 69
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: A very pretty church.

buzzingbride2b: I would say (while not a believer now) I was brought up Christian and like many biblical verses the ‘unequally yoked’ verse has some important ideas. The part I disagree with is unbeliever = wicked and Christian = righteous (I worked this out from experience). However, if you want to live a life according to a set of ethical principles/values it would probably be best to find a partner who will support you in this, who is on the same page (or not opposed to those things). Eg. Want a law abiding life? Probably don’t marry a drug dealer  

It is also true that interfaith/intercultural relationships experience some stressors that other relationships don’t, which may result in higher rates of conflict and marriage breakdown, so again this caution is not terrible.

It sounds like you have both approached this very maturely and with mutual respect. Keep doing what you are doing, be open to each other and don’t emphasise the divide, emphasise what unites you. I bet you could agree on a list of values for your marriage and your future family. Some of the beliefs behind those values will be different but in the day to day living out those values will show your unity and your children will understand that.

Post # 70
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Busy bee

GirlyGirl24:  so since you keep claiming we’re putting words in your mouth and things are being taken out of context, why dont you tell us in your own words? And we’ll keep it relevant to the OP and subject matter:

If, from one believer to another, it would worry you that your husband was not SAVED like you, what do you classify as the opposite of “saved”? Furthermore, if OPs husband refuses to ever convert and never chooses to accept Christ and is therefore not saved, where do you believe his soul goes in the afterlife?

Post # 71
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - City, State

ChicoryCreek:  I’m not going to bother engaging in conversation with you anymore. Clearly you have your own agenda– which is to not actually consider what I have to say, rather you just want to paint me as your version of a “typical” judgmental Christian– no matter what I say and twist my words.

So I am done replying to people who have already dereailed this thread, when my original post was on topic.

Post # 72
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Busy bee

GirlyGirl24:  haha. Defending your view and words tooth and nail but when I calmly ask you to actually explain what you mean so you cant be misunderstood anymore you say “Im not talking about this anymore!” Typical.

Post # 73
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1393 posts
Bumble bee

GirlyGirl24:  that’s fine…save the drama for your mama…

Post # 74
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

buzzingbride2b:  There’s a great line in movie where a mother says to her son “A bird and fish can fall in love, but where would they build their nest.”

I personally could and would never have married my husband if he told me that he didn’t believe in God. We discussed religion and God very early on, and I would have ended the relationship had we not been on the same page. I truly believe in Heaven and the afterlife, and the thought of my husband not accepting God and being in the afterlife with me is really sad. Plus, I think the differeing views could be confusing for our kids. Just my opinion. I hope things work out for you two. 🙂

Post # 75
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

renierose:  God will be the judge.

Here’s the thing, I don’t think I am any better than those who are not believers of Jesus Christ. I don’t think my sins are any less, or my morals are any greater. I just believe that I have been forgiven through grace alone.

For one will scarcely die for a righteous person—though perhaps for a good person one would dare even to die— but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. (‭Romans‬ ‭5‬:‭7-8‬ ESV)

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