Post # 1
So we’ve gotten almost all the RSVPs back and a lot of people are not coming. We invited about 110 guests and only 83 people have RSVP’d “yes”.
Our wedding is a 5.5hr drive from where a lot of our guests are, so it didn’t really surprise or bother me much. What did surprise me is how upset my Fiance is over it! He’s just kind of bummed out that so many people said no. I tried to comfort him by pointing out that all the people who are really important to us and active in our lives are coming, and even a lot of people I would never have expected to come all that way are making the trip!
He said he just feels kind of down about it. He seems to be taking it personally that people do not want to come. He’s usually not this emotional over things like this…
I want to cheer him up, but I don’t know how. Any ideas?
Post # 3
@DeathByDesign: Honestly that percentage is good even for a local wedding… IMO. Let him know that 83 people DO want to come, and the rest still may want to but cannot afford to or have a prior commitment. Just becuase someone RSVPs no does not mean they dont like you two or wish you any less happyness. 🙂
Post # 4
I agree, that is a pretty decent acceptance rate. Mine was about the same and it was local. I think it says a lot that so many people will travel such a distance for your wedding!
Post # 5
That still sounds like that’s a lot of people to have at the wedding for it being 5.5 hours away. You guys are going to have a blast, regardless of who shows up.
Post # 6
I agree with PP’s. Help him see the glass is half full instead of half empty. You will be surrounded by people who love you on your wedding day, and that’s all that matters.
Post # 7
When I opened this I wasn’t expecting such a high percentage! That’s a pretty good number of “yes’s” even for a local wedding, even better when many guests are traveling! I agree with PPs, try to help him look at the positive side of it.
Post # 8
Maybe you should tell him how much money you’re saving since those people aren’t coming, maybe it’s just cuz my Darling Husband is cheap but that always cheered him up!
Post # 9
I would think that there is probably a specific few he is dissapointed in and not voicing. Or his expectations were to high. See if you can find out if its a particular set or people or try to tell him that its normal for not everyone to accept.
Post # 10
That percentage is actually pretty high. They say around 80% are expected if it’s local, and closer to 60 or 70% if it’s a travel wedding. I am banking (literally) on a lower percentage than that RSVPing yes to ours – fingers crossed!!
Post # 11
Isn’t it also a three-day weekend? That, combined with a 5.5 hour drive to get to your venue and a possible overnight stay would prohibit some people from attending right off the bat. I think you have plenty to be happy about with the number of guests joining you. Have a wonderful wedding!
Post # 12
Think of how much money we’re going to save! (Ok, not the best tactic, but if you’re paying for the wedding yourselves, let’s say 50 dollars a plate times 30 guests.. it adds up! yay, extra long honeymoon!)
Post # 13
@Wonderstruck: @love108: lol Yes, I think he can appreciate the savings. He is definitely the kind of person who likes to save money. 🙂 We’re spening $72 a person, so that saves a lot of money!
I’ll let him know that we are actually are having a pretty good turn out, considering the distance. 🙂 Hopefully that makes him feel better about the whole thing! It really surprised me that he was upset over this, especially since most of the “no’s” are from people we don’t even really know or see often.
I’m actually kind of happy that we’re ending up with a smaller guest list lol. I wanted a more intimate wedding to begin with. However, I did so many DIY projects that required me to make at least 100 each to make sure every guests would have one (Programs, ribbon wands, ect) I could have made like 20 less of each and still had more than enough lol! Oh well 😛
Post # 14
That’s an awesome response! Not sure who is paying for your wedding but you know what helped my Fiance and I? We are paying for our whole wedding so the more “no’s” we get the happier we get because the cost goes down! HaHa horrible right?