(Closed) FI is doing the music and it’s so not “me”. :(

posted 7 years ago in Music
Post # 3
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10 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Ok – preface this with I am a guy (my screen name makes this obvious but I want to make sure my views are properly represented haha)

My wife and I have completely different music tastes, completely – however at a wedding the goal we had was to make sure our guests had a good time i.e. put on music everyone can enjoy because that is why you are paying a DJ for a reception etc, to get everyone dancing and to keep them entertained throughout the reception.

My thought would be for you two to come to some sort of agreement on “party music” that you could both just dance to and enjoy. I know you said you are both music snobs and there is nothing wrong with that, we all love what we love but you will spend a lot of your time mingling and will only be on the dancefllor towards the end of the night apart from a few numbers no doubt so try to bring it up as “we have to cater to the guests not to ourselves” and both take a step back from being the DJ’s.

To your point, you hired a professional and liked his work. Let him be in charge of entertaining your guests. It is almost guaranteed everyone at your wedding will have differing tastes from your Fiance and you as well…

Post # 6
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46335 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Your Fiance won’t take your taste into consideration and “To make matters worse, discussing this, I fear, will lead to a fight. He really thinks he is an authority on this, and will be agitated and offended.” 

I have concerns for you and your relationship.  I encourage you to raise your concerns and hopefully he will treat you and your musical tastes respectfully and include you in the planning or let the DJ do his job.

 

Post # 7
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10 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@firefly2011: I’d explain that to him (the part about cocktail hour). If it really will lead to a lead to a fight, let it! Fight fair, don’t go to bed angry on it and make sure you are being as open minded as he wants you to be.

One thing that will be important will be to get all this out before going back to the DJ. Almost every DJ’s website says the worst thing people can do is be to overbearing on the music, thats why you hire them!

I know Julie said “she is concerned for your relationship” but I don’t see fights as a bad thing, just an opportunity to set the record straight as long as it is constructive and other things don’t get dragged in etc.

Good luck and feel free to PM me if you want to discuss further as I’m not great at checking all the threads!

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