Post # 1
FI decided he wanted to buy, not rent, a tuxedo.
Fine with me (although, really, FI – are you REALLY going to use it, like you claim you will??!!)
So now – it’s tuxedo shopping. I told him to just get whatever he wanted. He did a little shopping on his own – and then decided he wanted me to see them. So, we’ve been shopping all over town and he wants my input. Ok, fine – input given.
I get a call from him today – he found some great deal on one and sent me a picture. I didn’t like it (the lapel was too wide for my taste) – so I told him I didn’t like it. He wants me to see it in person. He loves it. I told him to get it. Because it’s on sale, there’s no returns, so he was hesitant to buy it. And now he’s being a baby about it, because I don’t like it.
I can understand the potential stress of buying an outfit for the wedding that your future spouse will like – (dress shopping anyone?!) … but I just.don’t.care right now…. I texted him and told him to quit being pissy with me about it (that was real mature) and to just get whatever he wanted. Probably not the most loving thing to say. What I really need to tell him is that whatever he gets will be wonderful and I can’t wait to see what he decides on – and call it a day. Where was that rational thinking a few moments ago??
Post # 3
Call him back and let him know that. It does come across a little harsh…even if you don’t care sometimes you just have to pretend…The way you rephrased yourself at the end sounds sooo much better! But I would probably be the same way if FH wanted to buy a tux too!!
Post # 4
@june42011 – THANK YOU. I just called him…and – uh, oh- got his voicemail (that means he’s still grumpy, likely) – but at least I left a more supportive message….
I think deep down I’m freaking out about wedding costs (which he knows). I tried to be (and was) conservative on my dress and some of the tux’s he’s looking at are much more than my dress. *sigh*
Post # 5
My FI decided to buy his, too, and wanted me to decide for him which one to get. Thankfully, though, we went to the store, I picked, and that was that. I think it’s sweet that they care what we think about this.
Post # 6
@oracle: Oh, and about the cost thing….I CAN RELATE!!! My FI always wants the MOST expensive EVERYTHING, and I’m just like “can’t we save a little here pleeeease??”
So I feel that.
Post # 7
At least your FI cares what he’s wearing. I had to drag my FI to the store to buy a suit, and from the way he acted, it was a rather tramatic experience. He just hates shopping. I think it’s cute that he cares about the tux and what you think of it so much.
Post # 8
I feel your stress over the cost and look! At least your FI is willing to go look at tuxes on his own! I have to drag and force my FI and, of course, the suit he fell in love with is waaaaay out of budget and twice what my dress cost! Now he’s snippy and refuses to consider anything else! Sounds like you both need a breath. Maybe tell him to get someone to take a picture of him wearing the tux, think on that picture for a bit (but not so long the sale goes off!) and then decide if he thinks it looks good. If yes, tell him to buy it! If no, move on. Has he tried online? both amazon.com and overstock.com have some awesome tux deals! 🙂