Post # 1
He has had this massive fear of dentists since he was a child (not based on any traumatic experience or anything like that). He has had severe tooth pain on and off for over a year and he just will not go. He has been whining in pain since yesterday afternoon. I woke up this monring and he was not in bed. I found him asleep on the couch…he had got up in the middle of the night because he was in so much pain he did not want to wake me. I have done everything I could for him (Advil, extra strength Orajel) but I am about out of patience. He is a real man’s man normally but he is being SUCH A CHILD about this toothache. I think I just need to let him own this problem…if the pain get’s bad enough he knows what he has to do.
Ugh…anyone else have a man like this???
Post # 3
@sillysillybee: Fortunately not. It would be hard for me to keep a civil tongue with someone who would choose that degree of pain over doing something about it.
He’s an adut though. We all make choices. He chooses to suffer.
Dentists have changed a lot. Dentistry can literally be pain free. Tell him to stop being an idiot.
Post # 4
Yes, and no. Darling Husband hates going to the doctor, but will if it’s something urgent.
If I was in your shoes, I’d make the appointment and force him to go. Health is one of those things that it doesn’t really matter who’s being controlling and who’s being a fraidy cat–you just have to take care of things.
Post # 5
@julies1949: +1 And if he keeps ignoring it (if its just a cavity) it can turn into needing a crown, then a crown+root canal and then to the point that the tooth cant be saved. If its a simple fix like a filling, he better get it done sooner than later.
Post # 6
When it comes to things like your teeth the longer you wait the more expensive and painful it becomes 🙁
Post # 7
@julies1949: Hahaha. I totally agree with you and I did finally tell him pretty much exactly that about an hour ago. Now he is acting a bit sour with me because I called him on it. I don’t know anyone who actually enjoys going to see a dentist…I sure as hell don’t. But back in October I had the worst toothpain and so I caved and went. I ended up having my wisdom tooth pulled. I was scared to death and it was so silly because the procedure and recovery were an absolute breeze.
It’s hard to sit there and watch someone you love be in pain…but yep, he is being an idiot.
Post # 8
read him horror stories of infections that go to your brain and kill you! (It’s rare but it does happen!)
Find him a good sedation dentistry practice.
Post # 9
@sillysillybee: he needs to see a dentist asap. my husbands step dad was the same way and it turned out to be oral cancer, not a toothache. not saying this is what your Fiance has at all, but its important to have this checked.
Post # 10
Actually I am exactly like your Fiance. It is a phobia – an irrational fear of dentists. Every time I go, I usually lose a tooth. Find a dentist who specializes in fearful patients. Sometimes they can prescribe something before the visit or use nitrous oxide, I get knocked out to get my teeth cleaned!
Dentist phobia is unbelieveably common. Eventually the pain will gt so bad he will be forced to do something. Prepare now and find a dentist who is used to dealing with this type of patient.
Post # 11
I’m like this. Although pain will drive me to see the dentist. I’ll probably have a panic attack and probably nearly die (Or so I’ll think), but I’ll go. Poor guy… hopefully pain wins and he goes soon.
Post # 12
@MrsWBS: It’s not that rare– it’s very easy for a tooth infection to kill a person if left untreated. Please tell him to seek treatment asap.
Post # 13
Well I work at a dental office, and let me tell you…this sounds like a root canal if its not a wisdom tooth. He needs to get it looked at because if its infection, it can build up and sometimes have swelling in the face and the worst loosing the tooth. Unfotunately, no pain meds will help. You just have to call and make the appt for him. Comfort him by telling him that the first visit is nothing but a consultation. They’ll take some pictures and at least give him some meds or antibiotics until he can do any kind of treatment. Good luck!!
Post # 14
Even people with phobias have to take care of their teeth.There is treatment for phobias of all sorts.
If you get regular dental care and brush and floss properly, each visit won’t mean a lost tooth. There is literally no excuse for losing teeth these days.
It is also way less expensive to do preventative care. Studies also show a strong link between dental infections and heart disease.
Post # 15
If I were you, I would call a local dentist in the morning, explain what’s going on, and make an appointment. Then tell him it’s time to get in the car and go. His fear is not uncommon, and it’s mostly irrational, and I think he needs you to help him through this because it’s clear he’s not going to go in a timely fashion on his own.
Maybe this website would help you and/or him – http://www.dentalfearcentral.org/
Post # 16
I am a dental hygienist and it sounds as if your husbands tooth has abscessed (infection). As scary as it sounds these infections can kill you if they go untreated. It happens more often than you think. If he’s waking up in the middle of the night (unprovoked pain) it’s very pertinent he gets to the dentist. I’m not trying to scare you, but this is more than just a cavity.
I would put him in the car and drive him to the dentist. They will prescribe an antibiotic and possibly some pain meds and extract the tooth.