Post # 1
So some of you may know the issues I have had with FI’s brother’s now wife. Well Fiance is so sick of the petulant and bratty behavior from them he is laying down the law. He just told me that he is telling them if they can’t share a meal with me then they can’t come to our wedding. They have a year and a half to have one sit down meal with us. He said he doesn’t care how awkward it is. If they can’t be adults they don’t get an invite. With me having over 100 cousins we can easily find two people who want to be there.
Hell he said he won’t have his brother be a groomsman if he can’t get his act together! After all both his brother and his brother’s wife have called me a gold digger. Because a gold digger wants a topaz ring that’s less than a thousand dollars. I have bought myself handbags that cost more than my ring. But I’m such a gold digger lol. So he’s saying you can’t come or be in the wedding if you can’t have a freaking meal with my future wife. He’s told his dad. And his dad agrees. One meal and to act like a freaking adult around me that’s all my fi will be asking.
When I asked him why today he was like “my timehop app reminded me that he said our engagement ruined the Superbowl last year. And that he still hasn’t come around thinking we aren’t going to get married. It will suck not to have my brother there but why should we spend 400 bucks on this couple who won’t even share a meal with us? And if they harass you forward the texts to me I will deal with the backlash”
So I guess Fiance is just done with his brother trying to bully him out of marrying me. I hope there isn’t backlash.
Post # 2
sumshine.dawn: Well done for your Fiance stepping up. His Bro and wife sound horrible. Hopefully they can grow up and come for a meal with your guys.
Post # 3
Good for him.
Though part of me wonders why you would want to sit down for a meal with people who are calling you names and openly rooting against your relationship. It sounds like your Fiance may need to sit down with his brother and have a frank conversation that he needs to shape up and apologize/try to clear the air before you’re forced to share a meal with one another.
Post # 4
ela0919: he said he’s going tell tell his brother that at the dinner it will be letting bygones by bygones. I have no problem just dropping all of this if they can act like adults and not children.
MsBeer: seriously at this point I don’t even need an apology I just need them to get over themselves.
Post # 5
I’m really happy that you have such a supportive Fiance. It’s never easy with a difficult sibling, but I think you two are handling this as a team very well! I hope it all works out.
Post # 6
We’ve been waiting for my brother in law and his wife to act like adults, for over 30 years ….
Post # 8
2XMOB: sighhh I’m hopeful. But I’m also realistic about this. If they can’t be adults hey I don’t get to see them at my wedding! If they can be adults I don’t have to deal with their hissy fits. Either way it’s avwin win sin.
marinarosalin: same. I’m just worried his brother will hurt him. But fi told me not to worry about it. I just wish him good luck.
Kaymar: you’re telling me!! Thank God Fi is taking over this. Im SO sick of their nonsense. I’m surprised that he decided to do this. I’ve been doing the kill them with kindness bit for four years now maybe Fiance is just done with that method. Who knows. I’m going to put a saddle on this gift horse instead of looking it in the mouth. Def going to let Fiance deal with it.
Post # 9
sumshine.dawn: Good for your FI! Doesn’t it feel amazing when your partner sticks up for you?
Something similar happened prior to our wedding with my father-in-law and FI’s best friend. My father-in-law didn’t speak to me for 2 years prior to our wedding. I would walk in a room, he would walk out. My husband confronted him before our wedding to find out what was really going on. Turns out, he heard that I have fertility issues and since my now husband is the last male in his family, his Dad was so upset that his name would die because of me. I’m now going through fertility treatments to get pregnant and there’s a huge change of us having multiples. Wouldn’t that be hilarious if he wasted 2 years being mad/upset and he ends up with twin or triplet grandsons? Moral of the story – talk to your family!
My husband’s best friend hated me and did everything he could to try and stop our wedding. He spread nasty rumors about me, talked bad about me behind my back to my inlaws (didn’t help the Dad situation above at all!), told my Husband he was making the worst mistake of his life, etc. My Husband finally had enough and told him if he can’t say anything nice about me, don’t bother coming around him. We haven’t seen or spoken to him since our wedding.
Weddings bring out the best in people, don’t they?
Post # 10
soontobemrsKB92615: Well sadly our issues have been before either couple was engaged.but yes. It’s so nice. I feel like 100% better about this. 🙂 it actually feels like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders