(Closed) FI is planning our honeymoon…maybe? Wedding in 41 days!

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2144 posts
Buzzing bee

Well, there has to be SOMETHING planned unless you guys are just going to stay with your parents for 5 days after the wedding… Maybe try asking him what type of activities he’s planning because you need to know what shoes to bring or something like that? Maybe just try to drop little hints or something. It’s a sticky situation.

I will say try not to be too sour about the tropical honeymoon. I really wanted to go to a nice tropical beach, but in the end I realized it was a little selfish– Mr. Joe can’t even swim! While he never complained when I was suggesting some beaches, I decided against it. We ended up having a honeymoon in New Orleans that we BOTH enjoyed! The honeymoon is for both of you, and if he didn’t like the idea of it, then what kind of honeymoon is it if one person isn’t happy? heh

anyway, good luck getting him to get the plans rolling!

Post # 4
78 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I had the same problem with my FH.  I finally just had to ask so that I did not drive my self crazy and could stop getting so sick about it.  I did not hear exactly what I wanted to hear, but it was an answer and we could get to a solution.  In the end he called his grandma for some advice and got it done.  He then saw how important it was to me and made it happen. 

P.S.  it was not my fantasy beach carribean honeymoon…we live by the beach anways, and he cannot swim either…..AND…….we ended up in New Orleans too.  we stayed iin a private condo place and got the best of both worlds.

Post # 5
484 posts
Helper bee

I have the same problem. My wedding is the day before yours and my fiance has not booked our honymoon yet – his ONE job for the wedding planning. We don’t even have a flight off of Hawaii yet because I don’t know when we are leaving!

I know you are bummed about not going somewhere tropical but if it makes you feel any better, New England is gorgeous in October. The foliage will all be happening and you can go apple picking and hiking.

Try not too stress (I know, easier said than done – I am stressing too). Worst comes to worse you can always just rent a car and buy a guidebook and start driving and find little bed and breakfasts as you go.

Post # 6
357 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I see two options…being sneaky and asking without really asking, like in the example that Joeswifey gave you about the shoes, or just coming out with straight up and honest and asking him.  Maybe he doesn’t realize how important it is for you to KNOW that this has been taken care of?  Putting it out in the open like that might help…at least it would let you know where things stood.

Post # 7
296 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

If I was to rely on my Fiance to plan our honeymoon, there would be no honeymoon or we would pay through the nose because of last minute bookings.  I think since you say you planned 95% of the wedding, history is sure to repeat itself.  I would have a frank talk about how his planning is going. Not accusatory, just very calm and pleasant.   Then I would start planning asap.  You live in LA,  what about Cabo? it’s pretty reasonable.  Maybe drive up the coast to Santa Barbara or Monterrey- both very romantic with lots to do.

Post # 9
4567 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We haven’t talked about this since we’re not officially engaged, but I get the feeling that unless I do it, the honeymoon will consist of a Motel 6 in Pensecola Beach. He wouldn’t MEAN to not pay attention, but I tend to be better with those kind of details. Maybe nicely bring it up to ask if he needs any help with it?

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