(Closed) FI is suddenly very traditional?

posted 6 years ago in Traditions
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@SillyStacey:  

My SO–who is a former Chippendale dancer and once told me that he seriously “couldn’t even guess” at the number of one night stands he had–informed me a few weeks ago that he wanted to not have sex anymore until our wedding.  

Shocked the HECK out of me.  

Post # 4
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2385 posts
Buzzing bee

Mine’s a lot more interested/involved than I thought he would be, but no huge surprises yet. 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

My Fiance, who is generally fairly traditional, the other day suggested a First Look. He didn’t call it that, because he wasn’t aware that it was a Thing, but yeah. Surprised the heck out of me. So I guess it goes both ways.

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@SillyStacey:  I guess the positive is that he’s been working pretty much 24/7 so we had already tapered down to almost nothing anyway.  It’s easier for me to get in a mindset and go without than it is for me to try to go sporadically once a week or so. I’m just looking forward to my wedding night!  

He asked me if I wanted to bring the kiddos (I have 3 from a previous marriage) on our honeymoon and I told him he was nuts!  LOL

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Brazil Room

Mine just informed me last night that he doesn’t want me to get a pre-owned wedding dress. Partially because of superstition. Partially because he said he would be thinking that it was used by someone else to “get it on” in and for our whole day he wouldn’t be able to see past it. “It can be professionally cleaned!!!” ugh.. no avail.

So bummed out. I really wanted to wear a Claire Pettibone gown, but can’t afford new…. back to the drawing board….

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

We haven’t gotten talking yet about the wedding details because he’s finding the just right time he wants to propose, BUT, it wouldn’t surprise me if his or my original tastes end up changing a lot, so I’m preparing mentally for the unexpected.

Before he started taking me ring shopping I had almost no opinions on rings. He was the same. I mean, stuff we totally hated right off the bat, we didn’t ever really warm up to, but a bunch of stuff that we were about equally so-so about quickly evolved into either awesomeness or crappiness. 

Our first guesses at what to try on ended up looking almost nothing like the ring we finally went with. I remember our first choice clearly and it is not bad at all. We both reminisce though because we are both so pleased as punch with the actual ring design and how much more we love it than the first little number. There are so many similar “taste” type decisions about a wedding… sooo…  I seriously have no idea what it’s going to end up like. I’m just gonna roll with it Smile

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Mine really wants cake toppers.  We both really like the minimalist aesthetic and aren’t into frilly girly things, so I was quite surprised that he wanted cake toppers so badly.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@SillyStacey:  I was actually surprised by just how opinionated my Fiance is. We’ve had one fight while planning so far, and it was about wedding colours. I wanted jewel tones, he didn’t. Then he saw a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress in a magazine I had out while we looked at center piece ideas, he wanted that specific purple. It’s eggplant purple, in my opinion plum is very similar to the same purple, but when I showed him some plum Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses to see his opinion he said it was the wrong colour!

In hindsight, I never should have been surprised by how involved he’s been, but I never in a million years would have though he would actually care about colours or centre pieces or even the BMs bouquets.

@chemfemme:  My Fiance tried suggesting that, I took one look at him and said “f*ck no!” I wouldn’t last a year without.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@drummerbride:  Yeah, I don’t think a year would have worked for me, but 2 months is do-able.  

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@NovaGrey:  Does he need to know? You could always get a pre-owned one, have it cleaned, and never tell him. 

Post # 14
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670 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

We are having a beach ceremony and I wanted the drift wood type of space and he doesn’t want it, says it looks “redneck” whatever that means.

I didn’t think he would care so much as to what the backdrop would be where we exchange vows but apprently he does. lol

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Brazil Room

@drummerbride:  I couldn’t do that to him. If he ever found out (and he would because I can’t keep a secret or tell a lie to save my life) he would be just devestated 🙁 Definitely not worth it. Plus I definitely wouldn’t want to tell him that something REALLY bothered me and then find out for myself later that he did it anyway behind my back. Give and take, I suppose…

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

My fiance and I are going a pretty non-traditional with our wedding, except he has been VERY adamant about not know ANYTHING about what I will look like. He doesn’t want to see any jewelry, he doesn’t want to see my shoes, he doesn’t want to have any idea of how I will be doing my hair or makeup… it’s really rather surprising! He and I went to visit my mom while my aunt was in town and she had just seen photographs of my gown. She said that it was, “So pretty, especially with the flowers!” and he later told me how upset he was that he now knows it has flowers. It’s definitely unlike him to care about that stuff, but I have to admit, it is sweet.

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