(Closed) FI is the best man at his brother's wedding…

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 3
387 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

yes… You do sit and listen and join in on conversations and be excited for your soon to be brother in law! 


Why haven’t you set a date or done any planning? 

Post # 4
8520 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@Ami_zing:  If it is your fiances brother then wont the rest of his and your FI’s family be there? Surely you know members of the family that you can talk to.

Post # 5
5959 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

You may or may not be sitting with your Fiance.  If not, just get to know the people at your table during dinner, then afterwards during dancing you can dance with your man.  It’s no biggie.

Post # 6
1868 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

What exactly are you worried about? You would socialize with whatever people you are sitting with at the dinner table…  Also, it’s your brother-in-law’s wedding, I am sure there will be people there that you know. Besides, once dinner is over, you and your fiancé don’t have to be apart. 

You’ll be fine. 

Post # 7
2053 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Ami_zing:  Nothing has to be awkward about it. You can handle yourself for a couple of hours just fine and your Fiance will be with you soon after the ceremony and photo festivities. You’ll have a nice time, just enjoy the event and be happy for the brother.


Post # 8
139 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I was actually “the girlfriend of the best man” on my (now) FI’s good friend. Yes, you sit away and try to make some sort of acquaitance, so you can enjoy yourself πŸ™‚ To be honest, I had way more fun on that wedding than my boyfriend did (he wasn’t allowed to leave the bridal party’s table by the bride literally almost during the whole wedding). I got to know some girls there and had a lot of fun (I didn’t know anyone at all at the wedding)

So, my advice is, try not to get frustrated with the fact that your Fiance may not spend a lot of time with you at the wedding (I know it’s hard) and find a company to hang out with. 

P.S. I personally think it’s a little annoying (not to say disrespectful) to seperate a couple through the whole wedding (ceremony, dinner, etc.) and would probably consider putting my bridal party with their SOs, but then again, it’s a tradition, so we shall deal with it. πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚




Post # 9
2881 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@Ami_zing:  yes, you step back and let him do his thing. You eat, drink, be merry, make small talk and be pleasant. 

It’s just like going to a benefit or other formal event solo. If you’re seated with him at any point, simply enjoy his company. You can do it!

Post # 10
354 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

My Fiance was the best man at a wedding – I was sat on a table of friends, 3 couples and 2 singles (including myself) and had an absolute blast! At the start of the wedding I barely knew anyone (and definitely didn’t know anyone I was sat with), at the end of it I knew everyone!

The only logistically issue was getting from the church to the reception (I didn’t realise that he would have a lift and I wouldn’t!) but we fixed that and it was a great day all round.

Don’t look at it as sitting awkwardly – look at it as an opportunity to get to know the circle of family and friends whom your Fiance will probably know a lot of. If you go in with an open mind it will be a lot of fun. And when it gets to after dinner Fiance will be yours to dance with πŸ™‚

Post # 11
1274 posts
Bumble bee

My FI’s brother got married two summers ago, I was seated at a table with his dad, dad’s Girlfriend and some friends family members. It wasn’t awkward because I was able to be introduced to his extended family, a lot of people I had never met before because everyone lives so far apart.

After speeches and people started milling around a bit my Fiance came over to hang out and wanted to introduce me to other people too. So it wasn’t as awkward as I expected it to be. 

Guests at weddings are usually pretty friendly because it’s a happy event! So make an effort to go up to someone you don’t know introduce yourself as Best Man’s fiance and take it from there. πŸ™‚ 

Post # 12
841 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@Ami_zing:  You talk to the people around you. Since you’re an adult, you are now allowed to talk to strangers.

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