- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
I will keep it as short as possible. Im an undercover bee, I apologize if its long
Fiance travels out of town about once a month for work. Several months ago I logged onto his computer cause mine was in the shop and thought my facebook was up. The message box was up and there was a message from someone I didnt know saying I cant wait til you come up here and I can see you. So I started scrolling cause I didnt know this woman. Then I saw the response from Fiance saying I will let you know when Im there and we can meet for dinner.
I closed it down and logged out immediately after that. I didnt even read the whole thing. So I never said anything because I trust my Fiance without a doubt. He has never given me any reason not to trust him. However just the way she was saying things made me kind of uncomfortable. It wasnt inappropriate but something about the way she said seeing him just put me off. So the month he was suppose to go up there and the trip was cancelled, then Fiance comes home and mentions that the trip is back on for December.
So I just came clean, I explained that I wasnt snooping it was an honest mistake. I said who is this woman. He explained that she used to be under his direct leadership when they were in the same office. However they all transferred to different offices when the main office branched off.
I said well I kinda would prefer that your not agreeing to dinner with some woman I dont know. He said you have nothing to worry about. She is young enough to be my daughter and besides that she is kinda whorish, she got knocked up by her last manager.
Im LIKE WTF? Honey that doesnt make me feel any better. He is a program manager and he often has to determine whether or not people get to continue in their positions since its government. So he says if she is one of the people Im recertifying then I wont be able to see her outside of work but if she isnt then we are gonna get together for dinner. Fiance says I have known her forever.
Seriously? So I explain to Fiance that I am not trying to keep him from his friends but I have a hard to time trusting a woman who got knocked up by the last program director who was there to recertify them. I also mentioned that describing someone as whorish doesnt put my fears at ease.
He is all very lighthearted about this and thinks my jealousy is cute. Its not cute. He said dont you trust me? I said of course but I dont trust her. I dont know her and from what your describing I have reason no to trust her.
I then said how would you feel if Z wanted to see me for dinner out of town, and he said well thats different you had a relationship, I said yeah but I dont have any feelings for him and you trust me right?
He said are you telling me that you have never went to dinner and not told me about it. I said honey every time I have received a text or email from anyone who isnt work related making inappropriate comments I tell you because I never want you to not trust me.
He still doesnt see what the big deal is. I said well it makes me uncomfortable and I would appreciate if you wouldnt and to please respect that and he didnt say anything and I walked away.
UGHHHH I dont know what to do???