(Closed) FI is way too paranoid.

posted 7 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Maybe he had an experience in the past that caused this paranoia?

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think this is a little extreme as well especially if you are on the pill and taking it correctly. I would talk to him about your feelings.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

We are both pretty paranoid about it. I am on BC, we use condoms, and he pulls out… Getting pregnant is just NOT an option for us and I wouldn’t be comfortable if we didn’t do anything and everything to prevent a baby.

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

When you aren’t on the pill, I don’t blame him for being a bit paranoid.  If I didn’t want to be pregnant, I wouldn’t fully trust just comdoms for birth control.  The failure rate is too high for me to be comfortable with only that protection.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Condoms have a really high failure rate compared to most other types of birth control. He is right to be paranoid. What if it broke while he was inside you? BAM, pregnant. I would never use condoms alone, personally.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I am not saying this to be mean, but I think that your Fiance is being responsible; not paranoid, and that is a good thing. Nothing except abstinece is 100% effective. I got pregnant with my first child on the pill, and I took it every day at the same time.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

To be honest Im probably worse than your Fiance and I dont trust one BC method used alone.  At this point in my life, I’d take non-spontaneous sex over a baby, the worse mood killer of all imo.  Fiance is also annoyed by my antics sometimes but I dont really care.  Until he finds a way to birth and breast feed a baby he can go somewhere.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I get where he’s coming from. I just got off my birth control earlier this month to particpate in our NFP class in good faith.  Like you, I’m a believer in spontaneous sex and when I was on bc, it could happen anytime.  Now that I am off birth control, I am so paranoid about it.  We have had sex once and before he got anywhere close to me, a condom was on (before we hardly ever used condoms since I was on bc) and having been on bc for so long, I have no idea when I will actually ovulate. 

The other day he wanted to have sex and I said no. Instead, I suggested we have “middle school sex”, where we could do anything but.  It was actually fun and a fun way to reconnect and get what we really wanted out of the deal, namely a big O 🙂

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