Post # 1
So… we have had our engagement pictures back for several months now. I think they turned out great, and I love our photographer! She is so nice, easy to work with and has done weddings for a couple of our friends and I always love her work.
The issue it, my Fiance hates the way he looks in the pictures. He thinks he has “hat hair” and that his beard looks patchy. Now, everyone thinks this is amusing because the guy cares so much about his looks and the girl is OK with it.
Neither one of us feel very photogenic, so we were both very nervous about how they would turn out. Our photographer has graciously offered ( on several occasions) to do a mini e-session this Spring to get some better shots for him.
I want to just keep what we have because, like previously mentioned, I can be a tad camera and I think the ones we have are great.
I feel silly taking her up on the offer, but my Fiance is all over it! Here are a few of our e-pics she did, and a few of the shots my Fiance isn’t happy with.
So… should we just suck it up and keep what we have? After all, it is not her fault that his hair was bumpy! Here are a few pics ti show you what we are talking about…
He says his beard looks patchy in this one…
This picture is one of the main ones he was disappointed with… and we both really liked the shot, editing, angles, etc…. he just hates his hair!
Post # 3
You have some great pictures, and had you not pointed out the hat hair/beard, I wouldn’t have noticed them. But once you did, I definitely can see what he’s talking about. If he’s not happy with them, maybe it’s worth retaking them (as long as you aren’t paying for a whole new shoot!).
Post # 3
I think if he wants to do it then you should- he should have pictures he likes.
I totally see what he is saying about hat hair and if the photographer offered- go for it.
Post # 4
@Mrs_Amanda: I’ve seen your e-pics on the boards when I was looking for some inspiration for my e-shoot and I loved your pics. I think you both look great and I would say keep them. However, if I were in your position I would probably feel really bad for my Fiance if he wasn’t happy how he looked in the pictures and would consider doing the mini-shoot (I would try to convice him otherwise first). If convincing didn’t work then I would do the shoot. Good luck! 🙂
Post # 5
First of all, I think the pics look great…
Second of all… how is changing photogs going to change his hat hair (or what he sees as the problem)? I mean.. if I hated my hair in a photo shoot, but liked the photos, for the re-shoot, I would just go to a salon beforehand.
ETA – Whoops, I totally misread this. Sorry – revise my “Second of all” to… yes! Reshoot!
Post # 6
Why not take your photog up on her offer. It may make your Fi more comfortable in photos when the wedding comes around.
Post # 7
I think the ones you have are amazing and could be in a magazine! I also agree that it’s not the photographer’s fault that his beard is “patchy” or his hair isn’t how he likes it. That being said, if she’s offering and it would make him happy, why not? It’s not like you have to give the originals back, right? You’ll just get ever more great shots.
If it were you who were unhappy and not him, would he do a retake session with you? 🙂
Post # 8
I think they are great pictures! I can see the line that makes it look like “hat hair”, was he wearing a hat? lol Or maybe its just the way his hair grows in. MY brother had that issue until he began cutting in shorter and eliminated the line. You both have to be happy. If he would like to take new ones and your photographer is gracious enough to offer, why not spend more time with her! She seems great and her pictures are gorgeous! 🙂
Post # 9
I think the photos look great, and I actually prefer his beard to a completely solid one! But that’s just me. Also… uhh… was he wearing a hat before hand? Because if he was, well, obviously don’t do that again. I guess if the photographer is offering to do it, just do it – but don’t go over board. These are engagement photos that will probably soon be trumped by your wedding pictures anyway. 🙂
(My engagement photo experience was horrendous, followed by the SD card being corrupted so we had zero pictures. She showed me a couple anyway and I absolutely hated them, every single one. So I understand the desire to get a re-do… but I honestly think your Fiance is over-reacting just a tad 🙂 )
Post # 10
- Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016
I think your pictures are beautiful!! (: If I was in your position I would take the photographer up on her offer so that my SO would be happy and confident with the pictures.
Post # 11
I can see your FI’s concerns when you actually point them out, but honestly I think I would feel guilty taking up my photographer’s time for something that was purely a cosmetic issue on his end. They are all lovely photos IMO.
Post # 12
thanks everyone for the input… just saw this was a dup post.. sorry!
She offered to retake them for free, although my Fiance insist to pay for them, she won’t hear it! Which is why it makes me want to retake them *so* much more difficult!
He is typically insane about his beard… always trimming, edging up, lining up, etc so I think he was really shocked at how it photographed and he wasn’t wearing a hat that day so I think it must’ve been how his hair was growing at the time.
We waited several months to see if it would grow on him and I have used the pics for Save The Dates, invites, printed some out and everytime he sees them he comments on his hair!
I want him to be happy and like the photos… I just feel awful using someones time and talents!
Post # 13
i think we all see our own flaws the most. i wouldnt have noticed what he pointed out on my own. . since the engagement photos are for both of you as a couple you should both be happy with them in the end. as long as the redo is free i would go for it.
Post # 14
@Juliepants: he would definitely do them for me again if I was unhappy… which is why I want to re-do them fo his sake. He has been really chill about everything wedding planning and related so this is the one thing he has really had a strong reaction to!
Post # 15
@Mrs_Amanda: those look like minor fixes that can be done via photoshop; ie, fill in beard and adjust the “lines” on his hair where it looks like there’s an indentation. Would that be something that’s easier for you to accept? ie, have her do the work in fixing the photos to his liking vs retaking the whole thing?