Post # 1
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Bee Keeper
He doesnt want any photos of himself or Best man getting ready. I am totally bummed about this. It all came up when I had mentioned my photog. had said that the bridal suite at our venue does not have good lighting/no natural lighting and he recommended using someone’s house or a hotel room. I said how about we get adjoining rms.so he doesnt have to go far to get pics of us both. He said I could take them but he doesnt need to… ughhhh!!! I know its not a HUGE deal but want them. I want to have ones of me, which bride doesnt?! I have alot of Out of Town guests so I will probably ask one of them to let me use their room OR just spend the night in one near them all. Since we cant see each other til the wedding… I just feel really bummed out and the only one into this wedding:(
I just feel alone right now.
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
That really sucks, I’m sorry to hear it =o( I’d be bummed about that, too. Hopefully he’ll change his mind when he sees how important it is to you.
Post # 4
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Helper bee
Hang in there. I too feel the same way right now after I keep getting the “I don’t care anymore, we can’t find the perfect everything” I haven’t hardly asked for help with anything and he says that? Maybe let it go for a little and bring it up later since your wedding isn’t til Dec. Sorry *hugs* I too wish I didn’t feel this way
Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
Geesh men…. I guess they dont see our POV. It makes me cry. I was welling up just talking about it to him. Everything is ” i dont care” or “we dont need that” Like the photog.for more than 4 hours… seriously??? I am not gonna choose what half of our wedding/pre wedding detail are most important! Allll the other details,flowers,dress all that stuff I have handled. I ask him one thing and he doesnt care about it. But lately its the pics.
Post # 6
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Bumble bee
I’d be bummed too… try not to let it bother you too much though. In all honesty it’s just not that big of a deal. Like pp said… maybe he will come around when he sees how important it is to you! Good luck!!!
Post # 7
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Sugar bee
Sorry you’re feeling this way. *hug*
It could be that what you’re perceiving as him not caring is simply him not wanting every moment to be documented. Perhaps he sees getting ready for him and his guys to be a fun, relaxing time when he can collect his thoughts, work out any jitters and enjoy their company? I’m honestly not so sure I want too many photos of my own “getting ready” process precisely because I know I’ll be freaking out and it’d be nice to know that wasn’t gonna be captured on film.
There’s no reason why you can’t have the photog take pictures of you getting ready. Even if the light isn’t great, I’m sure any capable photographer can work around that.
Post # 8
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Helper bee
@cherryblossomlove: I hear you. You need all 4 hours if not more for photography. Well worse case scenrio we can ask for each others opinions since our FI’s “don’t care” 🙂
Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
He even compared to ” well I dont take pics of me getting dressed for work” Really??? LOL Oh well I will drop it and he can get ready wherever he wants. I want mine done and that it is all!! We have our venue for 6 hours plus I think I will hire the photog one more hr. So 3 extra hours. I just want the makeup and getting dressed part taken. So 7 hours are good right?
Oh and I am the one planning the h-moon!!! I ask and again he doesnt care!! I say how about a mtn getaway for now? Like the weekend.. ” whatever”
Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
@Snow2bunny: Might as well…Thank you:))
Post # 11
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Helper bee
@cherryblossomlove: Yes 7 hrs seems perfect. Grrrr….. I’m planning our honeymoon too, this by far has been the most annoying getting no help with. I really have no idea what to do for this, so I stopped planning it for now cuz I’m beyond frustrated with it!
Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
I’m surprised the photographer is not able to work around the lighting in the bridal suite, cant he bring an extra flash or something?
Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
@cherryblossomlove: i think you need to try to change your perspective on this. not just the pics, but how you feel your Fiance is not “into” wedding planning or all the little details you are. I knew from the beginning that my Darling Husband did care about stuff. he is a very typical guy when it comes to this stuff and one of the first things he said to me after we got engaged was that he was relinquishing all planning powers to me – an agreement that made us both very happy! So i went into my planning knowing he wouldn’t care about most of it and then when he DID show interest in some things, it was like a little bonus and i made sure to incorporate whatever tiny little thing he had an opinion on – and they were few and far between. For something like getting ready pics, i would have just said the night before the wedding that the photog will be coming by to snap a few pics, no biggie, and then he wouldn’t think to make something out of it to begin with.
Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
@bells: to be honest there is like a window maybe and not a single photo on the site of any bride getting ready… Plus me not getting ready there will give me more reception time! Its a lovely venue but I guess the Suite sucks itself lol. A couple photogs. I talked to before all said the same thing too.
Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
@cherryblossomlove: just saw what you wrote about the honeymoon and wanted to share how i dealt with my Darling Husband for this as well. I just booked us 4 nights at a nice couples resort (we were already in Jamaica so its not like i was super going behind his back or anything), and he knew i was doing this, but i also knew that if i asked him directly “should i book it and where should i book it?”, his only concern would be cost and necessity. I was even thinking at one point that i shouldn’t have booked it as he “didn’t care”. But let me tell you, when we were actually ON our honeymoon, Darling Husband had the best time ever and admitted it was awesome that we switched resorts for the last 4 days and he was even talking about going back there on our one year anniversary!
Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
@Snow2bunny: I feel ya!! It puts more stress on me!! Every little thing he has said do whatever. I will just let it be right now.
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