(Closed) FI just doesnt care it seems:((

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

That really sucks, I’m sorry to hear it  =o(  I’d be bummed about that, too.  Hopefully he’ll change his mind when he sees how important it is to you.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Hang in there. I too feel the same way right now after I keep getting the “I don’t care anymore, we can’t find the perfect everything” I haven’t hardly asked for help with anything and he says that? Maybe let it go for a little and bring it up later since your wedding isn’t til Dec. Sorry *hugs* I too wish I didn’t feel this way

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’d be bummed too… try not to let it bother you too much though. In all honesty it’s just not that big of a deal. Like pp said… maybe he will come around when he sees how important it is to you! Good luck!!!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

Sorry you’re feeling this way. *hug*

It could be that what you’re perceiving as him not caring is simply him not wanting every moment to be documented. Perhaps he sees getting ready for him and his guys to be a fun, relaxing time when he can collect his thoughts, work out any jitters and enjoy their company? I’m honestly not so sure I want too many photos of my own “getting ready” process precisely because I know I’ll be freaking out and it’d be nice to know that wasn’t gonna be captured on film.

There’s no reason why you can’t have the photog take pictures of you getting ready. Even if the light isn’t great, I’m sure any capable photographer can work around that.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@cherryblossomlove:  I hear you. You need all 4 hours if not more for photography. Well worse case scenrio we can ask for each others opinions since our FI’s “don’t care” 🙂

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@cherryblossomlove: Yes 7 hrs seems perfect. Grrrr….. I’m planning our honeymoon too, this by far has been the most annoying getting no help with. I really have no idea what to do for this, so I stopped planning it for now cuz I’m beyond frustrated with it!

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m surprised the photographer is not able to work around the lighting in the bridal suite, cant he bring an extra flash or something?

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper

@cherryblossomlove: i think you need to try to change your perspective on this.  not just the pics, but how you feel your Fiance is not “into” wedding planning or all the little details you are. I knew from the beginning that my Darling Husband did care about stuff. he is a very typical guy when it comes to this stuff and one of the first things he said to me after we got engaged was that he was relinquishing all planning powers to me – an agreement that made us both very happy!  So i went into my planning knowing he wouldn’t care about most of it and then when he DID show interest in some things, it was like a little bonus and i made sure to incorporate whatever tiny little thing he had an opinion on – and they were few and far between.  For something like getting ready pics, i would have just said  the night before the wedding that the photog will be coming by to snap a few pics, no biggie, and then he wouldn’t think to make something out of it to begin with.

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper

@cherryblossomlove: just saw what you wrote about the honeymoon and wanted to share how i dealt with my Darling Husband for this as well. I just booked us 4 nights at a nice couples resort (we were already in Jamaica so its not like i was super going behind his back or anything), and he knew i was doing this, but i also knew that if i asked him directly “should i book it and where should i book it?”, his only concern would be cost and necessity.  I was even thinking at one point that i shouldn’t have booked it as he “didn’t care”.  But let me tell you, when we were actually ON our honeymoon, Darling Husband had the best time ever and admitted it was awesome that we switched resorts for the last 4 days and he was even talking about going back there on our one year anniversary!  

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