(Closed) FI just lost his job…

posted 7 years ago in Career
Post # 3
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@TheFutureMrsLamkin: (((Hugs)))

What happened?

Does he get any severance pay? Can you both get unemployment?

Hope both of you can find something soon.

Look now at where you can cut expenses (i.e. get rid of cable and eating out).

I hope things turn around for you both soon.

Post # 4
921 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Fiance and i both are jobless right now too 🙁 we are literally a month from the wedding and have to figure out how to pay the last 2k on our wedding. the sad part is out whole wedding only cost 4k….

Post # 6
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m so sorry.  I would probably cancel the honeymoon.  My husband and I didn’t have one right away either, to me it wasn’t that important.

Post # 7
2190 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@TheFutureMrsLamkin: Hugs!! I’m really sorry. I really hope some good news comes your way

Post # 8
2792 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Oh twinny, I’m so sorry to hear this! What a terrible blow to suffer right now. You still have a bit of time, but if it comes down to it, I would probably cancel the honeymoon to relieve some of that money. You can always take a smaller mini-moon and take a bigger trip if possible on your one year anniversary.

Darling Husband and I were hit unexpectedly with $20,000 (yes you read that right) in vet bills throughout the year leading up to our wedding. We decided to X our St. Lucia honeymoon plans, and instead went to our family’s condo in Florida for a week. It only basically cost us our flights. We are planning to take the St. Lucia trip on our one year anniversary.

I really hope that things turn around for one or both of you, and you find a way to make things work. I’m always here to lend an ear if you need it!

Post # 9
7300 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@TheFutureMrsLamkin: I’m so sorry. I hope he finds something soon. It’s so stressful. You tell yourself you will not become that couple that fights over money, but then you do because sadly, money rules this world. It sucks and I hate it, but you can’t live without it.

 Mr. Tattoo has been out of work since he moved here. He’s been doing freelance projects to have income. He has a B.A. and before he moved out here was a Senior Product Design Specialist at one company and a Creative Director at another. These jobs were in a small town in AR. We didn’t think he would have a problem with Pittsburgh. A B.A. and 10 years of exp in graphic design/web development? It should have been a shoe in. Nope. 

I’ve never been out of work for more than 2 months. I picked up a second job at Quest Diagnostics. I don’t even have a degree. Sometimes I wonder what’s the point of college if people without degrees are basically making almost the same amount? 

I am toying with the idea of going back to serving. I was making $250 a night on the weekends just in tips and $100-$150 during the weekdays. 

So maybe get serving jobs? Are you in a place with a busy nightlife? My sister bartends on the northshore here. It’s right down the street from where the Steelers play and right next door to where the Pirates play. She really doesn’t need a “real grown up job” as my mom puts it. She takes home $300 plus a night on Friday and Saturday.  If it’s a Steelers home game on Sunday’s she can walk out of there with $500 

Though, she’s been doing this for years. When she first started she wasn’t that good. But hey, it’s quick and good money. It’s hard work though. 

Post # 12
2792 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@TheFutureMrsLamkin: Do you have any savings that could float you for a few months? What is your living situation – do you have a mortgage or rent that needs to be paid? If that is the case, I would pay it for as long as you can, and then if you’re in a big hole I would tell your parents or whoever you can confide in. Maybe work out a deal with your parents (since they’re paying for the wedding) that maybe you could get a little cash advance and eliminate something from the wedding costs to make up for it? If it gets to that point, time to swallow your pride.

I know how hard it is – It took Darling Husband almost a full year to find a full time job. We had close to 30K in savings and were on our way to buying a home, and then with the 20K vet bills and months of having to pay our bills with little income when he lost his job, we only have around 5K now. He was working part-time gigs to try and get us by. I had just launched my business and wasn’t getting much income, and we had no benefits. Such a scary time. Thankfully after dozens of interviews he finally landed something not too long ago, full time with awesome benefits. We’re slowly but surely rebuilding our savings.

You just can’t lose your determination. I know Darling Husband felt like such a loser working some part-time custodial job with a college degree, but you do what you have to do to get by at the time. I know it’s a moot point but it will all work out in the end. We’re still living in my parent’s in-law apartment in their house because of it all.

I wouldn’t make any rash decisions yet until it all sinks in and you have time to think about it. If your parents are graciously paying for your wedding, I’d still go on with it. Even if you’re both still jobless by then, I’m sure you will get wedding gift $$ that will boost your savings for a while. Stay strong!

Post # 13
2385 posts
Buzzing bee

good luck

Post # 14
891 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

sorry to hear that.  honestly though, rings and a honeymoon should be the last of your worries right now.  just focus on keeping his self esteem up and encouraging him to get on the market and start networking asap.  it’s so important to keep your spirits up.  take  whatever you can get right now, your Fiance included.  this is a tough market, i would recommend doing some research on sprucing up your resume and job hunting, etc… right away.

also, start cutting your bills in half if you haven’t already.  try cancelling your cell phone plan and going to a no contract company like metro pcs where you can have unlimited service for $40 a month. 

maybe have a garage sale.  do what you gotta do!  

also, there’s a book called “thank you for firing me”.  i would highly recommend it:)

good luck.

Post # 16
5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

Oh my Im so sorry that you guys are going through this. I cant imagine how difficult it must be!! I hope you get some good news soon!

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