(Closed) FI Lost His Job Today…

posted 7 years ago in Money
  • poll: What Should we Do?
    Call off the wedding, cut your losses and go to a JOP. Disappointment is better than bankruptcy... : (20 votes)
    59 %
    Take on the second job and try to make it work. : (14 votes)
    41 %
    Other (specify) : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1363 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Wow. I’m so sorry for your fiance on both counts of his job and his brother. That is awful.

    Are they allowed to fire him for that?

    Post # 4
    Member
    2786 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I am so sorry, both for FI’s loss, and for the situation you are currently in!

    Since your wedding is in May, it might be tight to still get married givent hat Fiance can’t work for 3 months….the first thing I would think about is calling places you have put deposits down and seeing if they can be moved to another date. I know a lot of those deposits are non-refundable, but maybe they will let you push the wedding back? That is assuming you are ok with waiting, which you may not be…

    Does Fiance have any other skills he could put to work (waiter, bartender, etc) during those 3 months? H emight be able to find something else which would at least take some of the pressure off….

    Post # 5
    Member
    2114 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    So sorry ! I would say go with a smaller wedding now, or JOP and do the ‘wedding’ you want as a vow renewel …or just post pone the wedding all together ? why not get married in 2013?

    Post # 6
    Member
    2192 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I think for right now drop the wedding plans and get married JOP.

    I wish you the best!

    Post # 7
    Member
    286 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    How awful, I’m so sorry to hear that happened.

    Its really up to you and what you feel you are capable of and if going back to 16 hour days is something you’ll be ok with doing for at least 3 months. Will you be disappointed if you don’t have a wedding? Is postponing or downgrading an option? JOP services are not for everyone but that are a great alternative and can still be beautiful as many lades here have demonstrated.

    Post # 8
    Member
    5670 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I am so sorry this happened. I was in a very similiar situation as my husband is in the trade as well. He lost his job shortly after we got engaged and there was no way I could have afforded much on my own. He ended up landing on his feet and even starting his own company. I would wait it out. Give it at least 6 weeks and see how things turn around. There are a lot of ups and down in the trade and I feel like it has been much easier for many people I know with a license for any trade to find a job much quicker than someone with a bachelor’s degree. I am surrounded by plumbers, electricians, and carpenters and have seen a lot of panick and then seen all of these people land on their feet rather quickly. Good luck and just stay on top of all the job adds and talk to everyone you know (you never know who know sthe right people)

    Post # 9
    Member
    6998 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    My husband just lost his job as well – its been tough on us and luckily made it through the wedding without this hurdle. Just know that it will only make the two of you stronger as a couple…if you have dreamt of your wedding i would push it out honestly. you could always do a JOP wedding then have a big reception when you have the funds. hang in there, Unemployment blows – but 3 months will go by quickly.

    Post # 11
    Member
    4159 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @FutureJessicaMcB: Sorry to hear about the loss of his brother and now his job 🙁  It sounds like you live in Calgary.  Fiance is hiring for another trade, but it might be something to earn money in the mean time…PM me if you want more info!

    Post # 13
    Member
    14483 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Sorry for the losses.  Does the union not allow him to work *any* job or just any trade job for 3 months?  Can he do anything under the table that pays cash so you dont have to work two jobs?  Personally, I think I would reschedule the wedding and just have it later.  Part of getting married to me is the celebration with friends and family… the rest is just paper work.  I couldnt give up the wedding to just be married unless it were for other reasons like insurance or something.

    Post # 14
    Member
    164 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Oh my goodness ((hugs)). I can only imagine how stressfull that must be. 

    Could you scale waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay back (borrow a friends dress or look at consignment stores, potluck reception, paper flowers, BYOB) so you don’t feel like you’re compromising?  At the end of the day, if you want to be married, you can get married either at a JOP or at a small, DIY wedding.  I’m sure you can figure something out that wouldn’t cost much at all.

     

    I’ll be thinking of you guys, please keep us posted!

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