Post # 1
I fell in love with the skirt and bought it right away assuming that finding a top would be easy. Flash forward almost 100 tops later and this is the best one I’ve found. The back is perfect, but I feel like it’s too short in the front and I’m a bit uncomfortable thinking that it’s too revealing. When I start moving, the skirt drops another inch and shows more skin than pictured. I feel whimsical and young (I’m 30), but certainly not elegant.
My Fiance accidentally caught a glimpse and gushed over it, even asking that it be the top I wear as it’s what he envisioned I would be wearing. I’m comfortable wearing it in the city I live but I’m worried that when I go back home, it will be a little too much for my small town. It’s getting down to the wire, and I’m running out of options.
Please help me, bees! I’m overwhelmed! Should I completely disregard my fiancé’s request because I think there’s too much tummy? Am I being crazy and over thinking things and it’s not so bad? Can I add sophistication with a veil and accessories? I only have 2 months left, and it’s such a stress worrying that I don’t know what I’m wearing on my wedding day! Thank you!!
Post # 2
Personally, I would get a longer top because I think there’s too much skin showing. But that’s me. Can you get material added to the top to make it work?
Post # 3
I can see why your fiancé likes it! I’m sure mine would like it, too.
I personally think this looks too close to lingerie for a wedding. It’s short, sheer, shows a lot of skin, and reveals the bra. That’s a lot. I’m also not sure about mixing such a bright white top with that skirt; ivory or blush might go better. I feel for you, though, I originally wanted to do separates, too, but it was too hard to mix and match!
ETA: What about a simple silk tank? https://www.jcrew.com/womens_category/shirtsandtops/Jcrewcollection/PRDOVR~C7389/C7389.jsp?color_name=Ivory&srcCode=GGBS00006_99103936106_199017078_15910962078_122089666398_t_pla_pla-122089666398_9030953&sisearchengine=197&siproduct=C7389&noPopUp=true&source=googlePLA&gclid=CIKZjImSks0CFVNqfgod3MUMFQ&gclsrc=aw.ds’ defer=’defer
Post # 4
dreamreve1: Not really 🙁 I contacted the shop where I got it from to see if maybe I could alter down an XL and they said that lace is all one size so it only gets wider not longer, which sounds very odd to me. My tailor said she could add material on but even if I bought more of the same lace, it would be noticeable because there’s a thicker scalloped edge. I’m so sad!
Post # 5
I personally wouldn’t wear a crop top wedding gown. It’s not that they aren’t cute though (trust me, I wear them like everytime I go out :p) I just think for a wedding it’s not the most bridal looking gown. However, every woman has their own vision of what is bridal and therefore if you and your fiance love it I say go for it! It is super cute!
Post # 6
peridot456: I bought a dress as a backup to wear as a top but the colors don’t quite match and there’s a bit of booage too. And sometimes you can tell it’s just a dress underneath because of its seam. None of which make me feel very bridal. Ugh whyyyyy did I think this would be easier??
Post # 7
Nope. It’s just not working. That much midriff showing reads really young to me, and makes this look like a prom dress. I think it’s unlikely that you’ll find a midriff-baring top to go with that skirt that doesn’t look like a prom dress.
Post # 8
Why don’t you look for a nice lace off the shoulder topper (there’s lots on Etsy), and wear it over a plain white/ivory bustier?
Post # 9
Can you not go to a seamstress and have them remake it from scratch, but longer in the front? I think a 1″, give or take, area of tummy is appropriate for bridal but as it is now it is a bit much.
Post # 10
Waaaay too much skin showing. You look like you’re 16, not 30. Sorry you are having so much trouble, but I would maybe look for a generic white top and add a bolero or something.
Post # 11
i have this problem with just regular clothes. if you’re worried right now about feeling uncomfortable in front of your hometown, that’s not gonna change. if you wear it, he’ll be happy, but you’ll spend the entire time worrying in your head what everyone is thinking about your dress instead of enjoying your wedding. he loves you and he’ll love anything you wear. explain that to him and if he doesn’t go for that say you’re superstitious and can’t wear what he’s already seen.
Post # 12
I agree with the prom comments. You look great in the crop top, but it is a very teenage look. Almost all of the teenage girls I know who went to prom this year wore crop tops with full skirts. If your Fiance really loves that top, maybe find a shorter skirt that you can wear it with for the honeymoon.
Post # 13
Could you just add a tank top or something under it? It would cover more skin but you would still have the lace look. Maybe in like the grey color or something.
Post # 14
For me, it’s a bit prom-ish. On my monitor the skirt has a lavender undertone and the top is stark white, which seems a bit high contrast to me.
I would find either a beaded halter top like the original top Hayley Paige designed to go with this style of skirt, or a beaded strapless corset top.
Post # 15
Just saw this on etsy and thought it was worth sharing! To me that lace top and the bottom don’t really go together, but that’s personal preference. For the 2nd option, maybe you could add a thin belt to hide the seams?