(Closed) FI made a comment now I'm scared

posted 4 years ago in Babies
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Punctuation and paragraphs are your friends.

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

Don’t be scared 😊 you’re still Young and have plenty of time for another baby. Even if it were to take a few years or 5 I’m sure it will happen. Make that doctors appointment and put your mind at ease. Your Fiance was definitively joking around. 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

Whirlwind03:  Really? A comment like that on a post like this? Clearly, OP is upset. There is no need to point out her lack of punctuation or paragraphs, especially since you didn’t provide any support or advice either. If you don’t have something nice and relevant to say, then I think it’s best to just not say anything at all.

OP, I’m sorry to hear about your struggles about getting pregnant. And I’m sorry your SO mentioned those things so insensitively. My guess is that he didn’t mean to but I think you should mention to him you couldn’t help but feel a little hurt. I wish you all the best at your doctors appointment. Hopefully your SO can come with you for support. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper

You had one baby and you are very young. He obviously would like another kid if he is being financially responsible to have it. Take a breath. Perhaps his “humor” was ill timed but he didn’t mean he doesn’t want more children

Post # 8
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Newbee

Whirlwind03:  

Very insensitive comment to someone clearly in a crisis and needing support!  

 

Post # 10
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Helper bee

I am so sorry you are feeling this way. I hope you find the support and hope you need with your doctor and Fiance.

I do believe you should start having this kind of chats with your Fiance and with yourself. You are facing something that could happen (though, I really hope it doesn’t) which is that you might be infertile. You need to talk with your Fiance so you can both prepare yourselves in case this is what your doctor tells you, becaue I do believe you will need his support in order to confront such reality. So having a “back-up” plan would be very healthy for both of you -and might make you feel more calm if your Fiance reassures you nothing bad would happen if that scenario comes true. I am not trying to be pesimist, just try to make you improve your communication with Fiance about this topic. He seems to be very hopeful, while you are dealing with all uncertainty on the inside: you both need to be working together to support each other as a couple. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Wait you were trying for your first baby at like 16?

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

thelibrarylady:  I was trying to wrap my head around the timeline she laid out too!

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper

With a child in the picture already, I think his point was not that you shouldn’t get married as much as an expensive reception might  not be the smartest way to spend money, especially if you already know you are going to need it for future fertility treatments, a home, etc. But there’s really no reason you can’t be married right now if you both want to be. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

bbforreal:  I’m sorry you are stressing over this and he most likely isn’t helping. 

I think you haven’t got that much to stress about, you are still very young and already have one child. It isn’t the best of times in your life because your trying to sort out a house for yourselves and your still in school, one child is a lot of work and expense while doing that as it is. I don’t think it’s a time to rush and be concerned like you are running out of time. 

He obviously wants more children but I think he needs to slow down, he sounds like he wants it now, now and now. By all means, both of you can get checked out to see whether everything is running ok and what you might possibly need in the future. It’s good to be prepared and it’s wrong of him to assume that the problem is just you. But it doesn’t mean you have to actually do the actions and motions yet.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Sounds like he brought it up when you were drinking…ask him about it when you’re sober

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