Post # 16
thelibrarylady: WestCoastV: lol sorry for the confusion. We’ve been together since 14, he was my 1st at 17, was on BC up until 18, then kind of stopped with any method of protection. The comment was pretty much showing how much unprotective sex we we’re having with no pregnancy scares, we finally did end up pregnant which was the best thing ever and just shocked it hasn’t happened again. We are not planning nor avoiding it.
newlywednewbie: thank you, this is something that we will probably bring up in our counseling which is mandatory for our officiant to marry us. It’s helping our communication pretty well. I just have to be completely open and discuss this in depth with him for sure !
bluehope: exactly ! for sure getting checked out to plan for the furtur, he’s a dermatologist who’s working with the CEO of the current practice he works at now and they are working together to create more locations which makes him have a very busy schedule! So we briefly already had the chat that we will start when I’m done with masters which is this year, and would like to be married for a year or so, and give him time to adjust being in charged of his own practice hopefully late 2017. So his comments last night did seem as if he wanted it sooner than already discussed so we will be having a more in depth conversation! Thanks everyone. Dr opens in 5 minutes lol calling for my appointment !
Post # 17
So how long were you actually off BC before you got pregnant the first time? Your timeline doesn’t really make sense mathwise…
Realistically there is only a small window during which someone can actually get pregnant. If you have long cycles that would make it an even smaller amount of time overall, but that doesn’t mean you can’t get pregnant. You might just need to use OPKs or temp to know when you’re ovulating.
Post # 18
I think its good that he would rather spend money on fertility treatments than a wedding… isnt that more important?
Post # 19
ktsteimel: So much more important indeed! As I stated in the post was very responsible of him. However that wasn’t the issue, for me it was how it came off before he explained, when he first mentioned it. For me it cameoff as “we need to see why your not getting pregnant before we get married” which in my head was, if I can’t get pregnant he doesn’t want to marry me. It wasn’t until he explained his comment that gave me the relief in that sense, but it did just put on the pressure in I do need to go to a Dr and see what’s going on for the furture.
Post # 20
- Wedding: South Lodge. 2nd of Dec 2017
bbforreal: hey bee always good to find out what is happening with your body, me I had one child with my ex husband, tried for a second with fiance, no luck and due it health it now won’t be happening ever, did it break us, no we love each other and thankfully we both already had a child, although not with each other. Makes you greatful for what you have.
Post # 21
mrsbear2be: Hey bee, that is so true! and I am sorry to hear, but delighted that it did not break you guys!