Post # 1
FI and I were long distance for just shy of 3 years when he proposed. He lived in canada and I lived in wisconsin, that’s 12 hours by car for those wondering. Over the 3 years we broke up twice and were on a break the 2 weeks before he proposed. I won’t get into details about the breakups but the break was actually my fault. I called it off because I didn’t want to do the distance anymore. What I didn’t know what right before I decided to take a break he had asked my mom for the family ring I was getting. I ended up having a 4 day weekend and drove up to canada to ssurprise FI and ended up getting more of a surprise. He had actually picked up the ring from the post office as I was pulling into his driveway, little did I know. We ended up going out to eat and when we came back he went upstairs while making me sit on the couch, closing my eyes. When he told me to open them he had the ring box and was down on one knee. This was last april.
Fast forward to last weekend. We were taking some pictures to use for the wedding (we didn’t get engagement pics done) and he was joking around with his dad who took the pictures about having to go get the ring box. I jokingky asked if he was going to repropose so it was on film, his reply is what’s shocking. He tells me, seriously, well it would be better than me doing it on the couch. I was so taken aback I didn’t know wbat to say. Has any other brides had their FI’s not happy about their proposals?
Post # 3
I think guys feel a lot of pressure, because friends always ask the female, “How did he do it?” Maybe he kind of wishes he could do it over again?
Post # 4
FI proposed on the couch, and the only way it could have been more us/him was if we had takeout chinese in our laps. It was perfect.
Post # 5
Your title sounded so ominous, I thought the comment was going to be way more negative than it really was!
I definitely agree with @Honey_Rach, he probably was just embarrassed about the way he proposed. But if you were happy with it, then there shouldn’t be a problem.
Post # 6
I sort of screwed up my FI’s proposal. We were on a family vacation and my brother and I decided to kill a HUGE bottle of wine. So when he got out of the shower and asked to go for a walk on the beach, I was on my way to happy town and was in no mood.
My mom told me to stop being a jerk (because she knew his plan!) and I begrudgingly went. Of course by this time, the sun had already set and it was PITCH black on the beach. FI went through with the plan anyway, and I was super happy he did…even though I was a still a bit buzzed.
Post # 7
I have no problems with it at all. Its actually kind of ironic because when he gave me my promise ring we were sitting on the couch and he threw the ring box on my lap and when I opened ot he said its a promise ring and that was that lol
Post # 8
Are you happy with the way he proposed? If so, I would wait for a quiet moment and then tell him that his comment has been playing on your mind, and you want to address it. Tell him how the proposal looked through your eyes– how thrilled you were, how wonderful it seems in your memory, how you tell the story to anyone who will listen. That may help, because he may feel like he failed you somehow.
You definitely need to bring it up with him though. It’s caring and loving of you to be concerned about his feelings, and it will probably end up being a really wonderful, strengthening conversation for you both.
Post # 9
@wisher558: Even though I think FI proposed in the most romantic way possible (to me) he still has things he wished he had done. He wished he’d done it at midnight (NYE proposal here) but we were in a crowd of people at a concert. He did it outside in Chicago about 2am and after we did the whole shebang he looked around and said “I thought more people would be here.” We had just witnessed a proposal earlier in the day at “the bean” where people took photos, congradulated them, etc. so I think he felt that maybe he should have proposed in that way. I feel it was perfect because what are the chances that one on of the busiest nights, on a busy street, in a big city are you going to share such a private and secret moment. It was like the city closed down for those 5 minutes just for us. Now I almost screwed it up, I was cold and we had to switch hotels in the morning to one in the city (ours was by O’hare) and he begged me to walk around with him a little longer, I told him “Ok, but remember I’m only doing this because I love you.” ugh I can’t believe I said that, I’m such a brat but it’s a cute story to tell our kids someday.
I’ve heard from a lot of guys that they wished they had proposed in a bettery way. I think most of the regret comes from the fact that they’re too nervous to do this grand gesture so they sort of just spit it out and then it’s over. They think that it’s unromantic but there’s really nothing that could be more romantic than that moment of them being a bundle of nerves waiting for the person they love to say yes.