(Closed) FI made me sad about my dress :(

posted 5 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
1603 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@MrsFarm0619:  You said yourself at first you weren’t even going to try it on. When you did, it was the perfect one! You are going to blow all of his expectations out of the water. He will be so pleasantly surprised when he sees you walk towards him in that amazing dress.

Don’t worry, it’s going to be great ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
2190 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@MrsFarm0619:  Don’t worry too much about it. Once you are all dolled up, walking down the aisle to him, he will think you are gorgeous in whatever you are wearing!

Post # 5
8695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I don’t see this is an “issue.” Why did that make you cry? Men have no clue about wedding dresses. Trust me, your Fiance will think you’re stunning on your wedding day!

Post # 6
2299 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

When it is your wedding day and he sees you for the first time….all thoughts of ANYTHING else are going to fly out the window!  Seriously, all he is going to think is how gorgeous you look.  I’m sure he imagined a sleeveless ballgown because that’s a pretty “weddingy” look and that’s all he knows to imagine!  You’re going to look gorgeous, and he won’t be able to keep his eyes off you.  I promise!

Post # 7
57 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Yes, my sister in law had a fit and flare mermaid style dress for her wedding and the bridesmaid dresses were similar styles to her gown. While complaining about the fit of my dress for her wedding, my fiance said something to the effect of “Well she made you get a mermaid gown like hers..who does that!?” and when asked if he liked the dress he said “Yeah, but not for you” ……meanwhile he doesnt know my wedding dress is a mermaid style fit and flare (Mori Lee 5108). I had multiple panic attacks thinking he is going to hate my dress and I should have gone with something else.. 



All in all…. dont worry. That day, you are going to be gorgeous and walking down the isle to be his wife which is all he wanted anyway. He will be so over the moon happy. Hes going to love anything you wear. 

Post # 8
107 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Once while watching SYTTD, my then-FI made a remark kind of like, “Why does everybody want those mermaid dresses? They look hideous.”


Yep, mine was a mermaid. 

But the day of the wedding, all he could say was how beautiful I looked. I’m sure once your fiancé sees you, the silhouette of your dress will be the furthest thing from his mind.

Post # 9
1938 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Sweety the second he sees you in your dress all thoughts of ballgowns will fly out the window. He won’t be able to take his eyes off of you! No worries, I promise! 

Post # 10
1024 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I am like a million percent sure that men don’t know anything about dresses. I don’t care that he prefers you in a ballgown…he’s never seen you in one!

When you walk down the aisle, he’s only going to see how beautiful you look and to him, the dress will be perfect because it’s on  you!!

Post # 11
140 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@YokoOhNo:  My Fiance is paranoid about commenting on any wedding dress on those shows for fear of saying something negative about my dress / dress style.

Post # 12
9888 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@SweetartMD:  +1!  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 13
774 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Dalhousie Castle

Okay, unless your fiance works in fashion, his idea of a wedding dress probably comes from the disney films he watched when he was a young kid. Fiances, almost without acception, think of a wedding dress as a big white ball gown. 

When he sees you in your fit and flare gown, coming down the aisle to marry him, he is going to be amazed and overwhelmed. Also, keep in mind, in my experience men tend to look at the overall picture, picking at the details of each individual element is not their thing. He’s going to be blown away when he sees you, no need to worry. 

Post # 14
681 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My husband saw mine in a similar way, before our wedding.  He said, “this one looks like a bathrobe!”  Ack!  I then asked for *honest* feedback from close friends and family, and they thought I “could do better.”  So, I bought a second dress.  The first one was only $500, so it could have been worse.  An additional $1300 later, my husband now keeps his opinions regarding fashion to himself. ๐Ÿ™‚

When he found out what happened, he felt awful, and told me I would “look beautiful in anything.” Very sweet, but too late!  His was the only true opinion that mattered to me, so I bought something else.  I’m very glad I did, too. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 15
672 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@MrsFarm0619:  i wouldnt worry too much, dresses look so different on models then they do in real life. I showed my husband a bunch of wedding dresses, the one I bought included in them, and he specifically hated the one I bought. He said it was hideous. Well the day of he never knew it was the one he said he hated because it looked that much different on me! Dont let it get to you too much, he will love it on you on the big day!

Post # 16
2610 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

My Fiance saw my dress on my iPad on a Pintrest board of many dresses…so he doesn’t know that it is the dress I bought…and his comment on my dress was “ugh don’t do a sashy belt thing”…I just inwardly rolled my eyes knowing he doesn’t really know or care either way what I end up wearing or how it will look on me…I can understrand being upset a little but really I think you should wear what you love! I doubt he will see you in it on the big day and think you look bad…he will probably end up thinking you look stunning!

For ref…here’s my dress…

Here’s the dress from my Pintrest board that Fiance thought I should have gotten…

In my case I don’t think they’re that drastically different. The waistline on this one is similar to the sash on my dress. His pick is more ballgown though than mine..which does make me agree many men seem to picture the whole ballgown thing because that’s what they see in a lot of movies/TV.

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