(Closed) FI made me sad about my dress :(

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 17
2089 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

The moment he sees you, everything he previously might have said about your dress will be the furthest thing from his mind!!  Believe me, men have no idea what a dress will look like on thier bride until the day of and I’m sure you will knock his socks off! 

Post # 18
6040 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

@MrsFarm0619:  if I asked Darling Husband to describe my dress right now he wouldn’t be able to other than “white” lol. And we had a VERY small wedding where it was literally just a handful of people. Details should stand out and he couldn’t tell you a thing about the dress details. Boys are silly lol they don’t know a thing about wedding dresses. I wouldn’t worry about it.

Post # 19
519 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@MrsFarm0619:  You should step back and put this into perspective for a second. He hasn’t seen you in your dress and didn’t get to come pick it out with you so he honestly has no idea what to picture. He of course is picturing the typical ballgown and since I sincerely doubt he knows about dresses – he has no idea what would actually flatter you.

I can see how you feel a bit sad that he doesn’t seem approving but it seems to me like he was just questioning it because it is different that what he expected you to go for. 

I first gave the vision of my wedding dress to my Fiance as a t lenght white lace dress – but then I fell in love with this trumpet organza dress with beading! He of course seen a picture of it and did the typical comment about how drastically different this was than what I had told him it’d be and seemed concerned about how it wasn’t what I had wanted… Instead of letting it bother me I just piped up and told him that last time I checked he never wore dresses and didn’t know what he was talking about and that he’ll be shocked by how wonderful the dress looks on me.

Post # 20
332 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Don’t be sad, he’ll think you’re beautiful no matter what dress you’re in!

Post # 21
3371 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Awww, don’t be sad. Trust me when I say that when you walk down that aisle, the last thing on your FI’s mind will be the style of your dress. Men say silly things about fashion and style, and most of the time they don’t know what they’re saying.

Post # 22
104 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@MrsFarm0619:  Unless you have the figure of the models in the dresses, they do not look the same on “real” people. (Not saying models aren’t real)

Once he sees you he will LOVE whatever dress you pick out!  If you love the dress it will radiate from you and that is what he will look at!!

Post # 23
653 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My fiance and I have different taste in wedding gowns. We both like modern clean lines, but he likes sheaths and really straight up and down designs. I’m very hourglass shaped, and those kinds of dresses look really terrible on me. He hasn’t seen my real dress, but has said that he will love anything on the big day, and I know that’s true. 

Don’t stress yourself over this. You gave him a great response. Your dress sounds super sexy!

Post # 24
215 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2005


Aw, I can really understand how that would hurt but you have to remember he has no idea what he is talking about.

Probobly his one and only idea of a wedding dress is a strapless ball gown if you said “trumpeted with beading” to him he would have no clue what you are talking about.

Your dress sounds beautiful and if everyone is crying when they see you in it I’m sure it is amazing and that you made the right decision. You’re going to wow him on the wedding day and I am sure that he is going to love your dress and think you are just the prettiest girl he has ever seen ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 26
194 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@MrsFarm0619:  Too crazy!! Alright I’m from Missouri also, also planning a Junish wedding. It gets hot down here!! We will be having an outdoor ceremony/indoor reception. But I didn’t want my makeup melting off in the ceremony so I decided I was going to go with something light and comfortable. I picked my dress, and everyone loves it! I went back into the dress store I got my dress, with my Fiance to look at invitations and some other odds and ends and he starts pointing at display dresses. He pointed to one I tried on and a couple others and says “I never really liked form fitting dresses” months before he said “I bet you end up in a poofy ballgown!” Well he has been married twice, and the others both had ballgowns so I thought, “No way in hell! I’m getting something sexy so that I completely stand out and am different!!” I hated the ballgown but I think he’ll end up liking mine ๐Ÿ™‚ just do what you want im sure he’ll think youre beautiful either waymy dress v.

The poofy dress….way too much and didnt even flatter my figure. 

Post # 27
4435 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@MrsFarm0619:  you will look incredible and he will love the dress as much as you do! Men are not good at these things!!

Post # 28
1150 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

My Fiance is so picky with fashion. SOOO PICKY. 

He doesn’t like strapless, doesn’t like lace, beading, anything poofy, anything shiny, mermaids (he calls them Morticia Adams dresses which just cracks me up). The list goes on (to be fair, I don’t like most of those either).

I tried flipping through magazines and trying to get him to find a dress he liked, but eventually he just said “I think I just don’t like wedding dresses.” Well, that’s great.

I tried really hard to find a non-strapless dress (I actually didn’t want one either), but the strapless ones just looked better on me. He doesn’t know that my dress is strapless and lace, but he noticed that I was stressing about him liking it and he eventually said: 

“Honey, you would look beautiful no matter what you were wearing. When I see you, I’m just going to be thinking about how soon I can take it off of you. I’m pretty sure that’s what all guys think when they see their bride walking down the aisle.”

Post # 29
3415 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge

@MrsFarm0619:  Men don’t know what they are talking about.  My Fiance said he liked my dress when seeing the stock photo.  I showed him a picture of me in the dress on the WB (had my head cut off so he didn’t know it was me) and while I was showing him pictures of all the dress on the BEE when we came to my dress and I asked him what he thought he said “UH no that’s not a good style at all”  I wanted to smack him and say its the same dress dope!

Honestly just brush it off to male stupidity.  Once he sees you in your dress he isn’t going to give it a second thought.  He’ll think your gorgeous and that he’s the luckiest man in the world.


Post # 30
2684 posts
Sugar bee

When he sees you on your wedding day, he is going to be blown away and forget all about the dress style he picked ๐Ÿ™‚

At one of the stores I visited, I tried a dress that my Fiance had picked from the designer’s website and really liked.  It was pretty, but definitely not the one for me.  I told the consultant that this was one that my Fiance liked and she said that she has never seen a bride purchase the dress selected by their FI; they usually ended up with something completely different.  Don’t worry about it too much because you’re going to look amazing no matter what.

Post # 31
3669 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@MrsFarm0619:  Okay, I giggled and why? Because My Darling Husband said he disliked my dress when he saw it on the model (of course without knowing it was mine!). Come wedding day and he cried over how perfect the dress looked on me! 

All is well and you will get to give him a “I thought you didn’t like it” tease on your wedding day ๐Ÿ™‚ 

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