(Closed) FI mom wants to invite her coworkers?

posted 6 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2016

is she helping pay?

Post # 3
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Sugar bee

If she’s helping pay, she has a say. Otherwise, no. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

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lulu_bell:  Nope nope nope. It’s always bizarre to me when parents want to invite people their kids don’t know to the kids wedding. I would tell her that you want a more intimate reception where you know everyone.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

Why don’t you just give her a certain amount of invites and she can use them how she wants? I never understand why people are so hung up on knowing every single person at their wedding…unless it’s like 10 people, there might be people you don’t know there. Who cares? Maybe your Mother-In-Law is super close to them and they feel like family. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

If she’s contributing she gets a say in who’s invited.

I’ve actually had the opposite issue, I’m trying to convince my parents to invite more of their friends!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’d only say yes if she was paying for the wedding. I feel a response such as, “We’re already tight on the guest list and since we don’t know these people, we’re going to have to say no.”

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2016

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knickergold:  Hey I am having the same problem!  In fact, some of their friends that I had put down to invite they told me not to.  It is too weird.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I think that once you decide the division of guests/”allotment” for lack of a better term, your Future Mother-In-Law can pretty much fill her allotment with whoever she wants (other than convicts, etc.). 

If (for example) your parents get 50, you and your Fiance get 50, and your ILs get 50, I don’t think it’s necessary for you to micromanage who she invites. Once you give her a number, she can prioritize who fits in that #. And I’m sure her coworkers will be the first to get chopped. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

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beebee1983:  +1.  My parents paid for my wedding, but we still allowed my H’s parents to invite who they wanted.  We gave them a designated number to invite and who they chose to invite was up to them.  Yes it was H and my wedding, but it was also their son’s wedding and my parents daughters wedding.  I wanted them to be able to invite who they wanted.

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